How do I know what's really going on?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2006
How do I know what's really going on?
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 11:59pm
Hey everyone! I hope there's someone out there who can help, because I'm totally lost on this. There's this guy that I'm friends with, and have a huge crush on, that is really great. We hang out and get along really well. When we're alone it seems like he really likes me; we have really meaningful conversations and there are some real connections. But as soon as we join the group he stops approaching me. He compliments the other girls, seeks them out even to talk to, but almost ignores me. Is he embaressed to be seen with me around everyone else? Does he not like me at all? Does he like me a lot? By nature, I'm very modest and, I'll admit, fairly nieve, so I'm worried that I'm reading the signs wrong. Can anyone help?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 12:47am
See how he talks to other girls and treats them. When you guys are in a crowd together, talk to other guys, make yourself stand out in the crowd, get into the conversations that are going on. If you are in a bar, go around and flirt with other guys, even if it's small talk. If this guy treats you the same way he treats other girls, then maybe that's how this guy just is. I don't know how long you have been friends with him, but I would see if he wants to "hang out" sometime for a drink, just the 2 of you. It never hurts to ask....good luck!