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| Sun, 07-27-2003 - 1:44pm |
was with mm for some "quickies", (oral sex on his part)! and he didn't want to go inside of me, he was afraid he was gonna go quick.. Do you think he doesn't want to have sex anymore? well i think it's getting to the point where he only likes me to give him oral sex and it's frusterating to me! We still do talk about having sex with e/o, but I just don't know.. any advice or opionions

Some men (many men) prefer oral sex to any other form.I
view this as quite selfish, and you even say it is very
frustrating for you. You will not be satisfied with this
relationship for very long if the only orgasm going down
is his.
You say he is afraid he will "go quick". That is a common
problem with men, which incidentally a condom will help.
Why else would he not want to enter you? Fear of pregnancy,
fear of getting or giving an STD, fear of getting caught,
fear of commitment, a whole lot of fears can get in the way.
All these come to mind. But fear of premature ejaculation?
I don't see that one. He doesn't seem to me to be overly
concerned with your orgasm.
So tell him this is not getting the job done for you. Don't
take a passive role here, you have needs too. Get him to
explain himself more fully, help you get over the top, or
move on.
I do think he wants sex, just oral sex, and I think it is
selfish. Just my opinion, based on what you have written.
gurl
What are you in the EMA for? It may not only be sex, but sex is a significant part of it and if it's not working for you, then it ain't working. Period.
Explain to him that you two need to work together to solve a problem, and his help is critical in the solution... and good luck!
-lily