Update

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Update
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Sun, 07-27-2003 - 7:56pm
Hi all, just a quick update...I have had virtually NC with my friend, I only saw him for about 2 minutes last nite, and I skedaddled quick before the flirtation started. And H has been very nice lately, he took me out for a while last nite, and then we went upstairs he gave me a nice back rub, and then he actually kissed me, full make out kisses, for the first time in a long, long time. It was nice, but I am still having a hard time feeling connected to him. My friend still wants me to spend the day with him, next sunday. I want to, but I know I have to tell him I can't, because if I do I know what's going to happen. If we could just spend the day together as friends, if I wasn't soo attracted to him, I would see no problem, but I am, so I know better than to fool myself into thinking that we won't fool around. So I am warring within myself, between doing what is right, and what I want. I wonder which side of me will win?

itty

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Registered: 07-05-2003
In reply to: ittybrat2
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 8:03pm
Itty,

I'm sending you a little extra strength!! I really hope you stay strong and do what you feel is right for you now, and for your future. I'm glad your H was so attentive to you, and I hope you open your heart to him and you 2 can reconnect.

I especially hope that you get whatever it is that your heart wants, no matter how complicated!

hugs

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Registered: 07-02-2003
In reply to: ittybrat2
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 9:16pm
Hi itty,

Good work on NC...you are one strong woman.

I understand not knowing how to reconnect with H...so what did I do? I told him just that. I asked B/F what I could do to get things back on track. Be more sexy? Talk more? His response: Uhhh, I dont know, sweetie...and that was the end of that conversation. But, of course, he has no reason to think all of my circuits are out of whack because of OM...

I wish I didnt have to ask. B/F and I are long-distance for the time being because of work. And if I had him here with me, I would be more sexy, I would talk (or try to force him to talk...), do special things for him, and think of everything in my power to make him make me feel wanted/needed/loved again. I do love him--oh, so much...but the past two years have been hard, and we've lost the fire from the early years...our eight year anniversary is coming up next month, and I will be joining him...hopefully, I won't be too lost by then.

So all I can say, sweetie, is hold out and try your best at home... Hopefully, your craving will pass. Mine did not, which is why I'm on this board...and as much as I appreciate the ladies and gents here, I really don't want to need this kind of support forever...

Keep your chin up,

Alameda

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Registered: 04-24-2003
In reply to: ittybrat2
Mon, 07-28-2003 - 9:06am
Hi Itty --

Good job on the NC!! Be proud of yourself.

Thanks too to the response to my old post. Sorry I didn't write back. I was on a camping trip last week.

From one person in a tough relationship to another. Just be careful with your H. Remember you deserve the best!!

Hugs to you!!

Katie