Online affair with boss turns physical?
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Online affair with boss turns physical?
| Mon, 07-28-2003 - 10:05am |
I met this man in Karate about 6 months ago. We had an instant connection as friends. We are both married. he says he is happily married and I definently am not. In June we began chatting online. I really didn't think much of it untill he started flirting. Then our chats turned into cyber-sex and me sending him pictures of myself. He kept alluding to the possiblity that we may "get together". I got the idea a few times that it would never happen and tried to stopp the whole thing. Then he would say something and draw me right back in.
To make matters worse, now i am working for him. We are alone together a lot in his office and he wants to "play" he wants me to flash him or masterbate for him. I offered to give him oral sex and even though he wanted it he refused. Even though there was no chance of getting caught at that time he wouldn't let me touch him. He says it's because he is afraid that he will want it all the time thereafter. I just feel rejected. I guess he just wants me as some kind of personal sex show. But how? Because I know he cares about me in some way,atleast as a good friend.
Any ideas? Please help me.

Why do you feel rejected? If I were you, I'd feel downright degraded. From what you posted, it sounds to me like your boss is using you for his sexual enjoyment. Period. If you aren't getting anything out of it, what is the point??
Don't confuse giving him pleasure with you getting affection/love/attention. They are NOT one in the same. He may have turned you down for one thing, but he didn't mind you doing other things for him--is this relationship on his terms, or what???
If you want to continue this A, that is ultimately your choice. If he is really your friend, talk to him about your reservations and feelings. But sounds to me like this is purely sexual, not an emotional affair (remember, he did say that he was happily married...).
If you don't want to continue this A--if I were you, I'd start looking for another job.
Alameda