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| Tue, 07-29-2003 - 9:44am |
When we did the instant message thing last night, he was telling me how he's nervous about his upcoming performance -- it was adorable! It was the first time he has even let a moment's worth of less than full confidence creep into our conversation, so it somehow made me brave and bold -- does that make sense?! I'm not sure why he's so worried, as this past weekend we fooled around so hot and heavy -- it's clear we have the chemistry. In fact, I'm still kind of wondering if what we did that night technically qualifies as sex -- one of those sorta in, sorta not moments (sorry, but I can't stop thinking about it!)
Anyway, I just had this pressing need to share my crazy anticipation with all of you . . . and thought my excitement might cause some of you to remember and share with our Board, THAT MOMENT, just before IT HAPPENED for the first time!!!!!

i didn't have that kind of anticipation, just a short flirtation and then when he called, i made the spontaneous decision to just go meet him and do the deed. and it's been three years since and much more involved and emotional than we ever thought possible.
be ready for the rollercoaster, girl!
enjoy,
gurl
I know all abot the roller coaster, having had a very serious EMA in the past - so I am trying to keep my wits about me this time.
I've also had the purely-physical-we-both-know-this-is-going-nowhere types of flings, too.
As this EMA started out, I thought it was the latter -- just a few smooches, he'd start to annoy me and/or there wouldn't be chemistry, and that would be it. Instead, he's incredibly passionate and likes to talk about things between us.
Thus far in my life, I've learned that the guys who LEAST look like they'd be great in bed, are the ones who almost always are the GREATEST!
since you've been on the rollercoaster before, you know it will be all those highs and lows. just be ready for it!!
take care,
gurl
Yes, your post did make me think about the beginning. We waited awhile before we actuallly slept together, so I usually think of that first kiss not the first O.
We had seen each other as friends, started going out together more often, and then one night OM made me dinner at his house...*Innocent* little me didn't see it coming...too much wine, too many glances, too many brushes on my arm...And then of course the kissing. oh, so sweet!! But that was it the first time. Definitely made me come back for more though...
Thx for your reply to me from an earlier post--as far as that topic is concerned, I'm going to sit back and not worry about it (I have made a promise to myself of sorts). As lily said, the 'wrong' answer would get me nowhere and most likely only upset me.
Since you two have a planned day, you might try to think of something spontaneous that you could do to break cycle of expectations...nothing is coming to me right now but if I think of something I'll post back...
Good luck, sweetie, and enjoy!
A.
But, I'm supposing since he is so far away (and no longer travels) and I am still lacking personal attention at home, I've become involved with a coworker. He works in another department, in another building, so I rarely see him. I've known him for three years. This one I thought I saw coming a year and a half ago. He'd drop in now and then to chat for a few minutes, and occasionally called. Then he offered to show me how to play racquetball....and we had long talks after. He seemed interested, but held back, so I decided as long as I was married, he would keep his distance, and he was a great friend, so I left it be. About 10 months later, during one of his calls, he said he was going to a house he'd just bought, the W was out of town, I could come by on lunch and watch him paint if I wanted. He'd show me the house. So I went, he didn't paint a thing, we talked for over an hour, him fishing, me trying to answer 'positively'...til he finally reached out and got me by the arm saying he'd had enough...so I guess I had anticipation of sorts here, lol, but just didn't know if I'd ever have anything beyond that. With him, I am much like someone posted here...if I lost him, there would be a hole in my life. He calls nearly every day, emails occasionally, and I see him in a part time job he has sometimes out of the office. But I do not now, nor will I ever want something more from him. We don't talk about home much at all. I don't ask at all about his homelife, and he only occasionally will ask a question...like after a recent beach weekend, he asked if "he and your son" went with my daughters and me. It's understood he does all the calling of me at work, I won't call him at home nor him me at home, I don't have a cell, and I don't call his. He does have a pager, and I'll leave a brief "hello" kind of message now and then.
Thanks for the chance to remember!!
Oh No!!!! I'm glad you can laugh about it now! Sounds like it wasn't so funny at the time, though ;o)
My DH and I had A LOT of, uh, "technical difficulties" when we first got together -- back when we were teens and first started dating. DH was a virgin (I was not), and while the first time we had sex it went just fine . . . the next DOZEN times he'd be so excited that Mr. Happy would have a party before he'd even gotten into the party room, LOL!
We've been together for many years now, but it still crops up as a problem for time to time, if we haven't been having sex regularly.
thanks for sharing
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Thanks for taking me back... I've been seeing MM for over 3 years now and I guess like any relationship the first time seems to get left behind and I honestly can not remember much except at how great I felt afterwards.
The first time we planned it... things didn't go exactly to plan... and actually we didn't plan it at all... oh dear... am I making any sense??? we used to chat online... he at work and me at home... and one day we were chatting... DH was home in bed sick and it turned out MM had taken the day off. He suddenly asked me to come over to his place and funny thing was DH said previously if I had wanted to go out he would take care of DS. What perfect circumstances! I remember getting there and being so nervous... we talked, had coffee... you know... then he went to do something and I was standing in the ounge room just watching the tv, although not really watching... when he come up behind me... turned me around and just kissed me... it all seemed so natural. Where it didn't go exactly to plan... was that MM was obviously a little too excited... that's ok... I can deal with that and believe me... it's never happened again ;)
So... the next time we planned to meet at my place... but like I said... I don't remember a lot of the situation... just saying to him that I wasn't sure I could go through with it... I did... and three years later... I still don't want to give him up.
Enjoy the first time... but remember if all doesn't go exactly to plan... don't be too disappointed... there will be others.
luv and hugs
Sweet
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