What should I do........................

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-21-2003
What should I do........................
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Tue, 07-29-2003 - 10:17am
My world has been turned upside down. I don't want to give out to much info but this past weekend my whole life changed. I've been married to a man for 7 years that I don't think I ever really loved. He was stability for me. He's also 10 years older. I've been SO lonely for so many years that I've just came to the conclusion that THIS IS MY LIFE. My husband isn't even interested in sex anymore. Then out of the blue the man that I've had this WILD crush on tells me that he's been interested in me for a LONG time. He's everything I've ever fantasized about. We were out of town all weekend together without our spouses and we actually kissed. That's all we did but I'm sure he wants it to go further. Any advice? Where do I go from here? Thank you. I'm so at a loss I can't even think or eat.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-29-2003 - 10:28am
welcome secret. think very carefully before you jump into anything with the OM. you do sound lonely and it's very difficult to separate the attention of someone new from the reality of your life. if your M is not fulfilling or satisfying, you should end it and move on with your life. not just for the attention (and whatever comes after that!) from the OM you're contemplating a relationship with.

take some time for you and your future and try to figure out what you want from life. make yourself happy. if that means staying in your M and exploring your attraction to the OM, go for it. but do it for you!

stay in touch,

gurl

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Tue, 07-29-2003 - 10:53am
please dont do any thing with this man while you are still married you will seriously regret after if you dont want to be married move on affairs just dont solve any think i was having an affair if it was that before me and my husband got married well it started like this i was with some one before him and it wasnt going to well i met my husband and was seeing him then going home and my ex was coming around still neither of them new for a while then my ex sused sent my husband email and managed to get hes phone number it was a crazy time i still carried on seeing them both then my ex asked me to marry him but all so my husband did i think i was in love with them both just dont please it isnt worth it i have prosed and took vows now and i no and hope i will never cheat on my husband when i did cheat i was very down at the time and i know its no excuse but you dont think right then i was told of my doctor i was very depressed and the situation i was in was in was making it worse xxxxluck after your self xxxxxxxxxxx if you fancy a chat i,m at lturtill@aol.com