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New to the Board, EMA in the works?
| Wed, 07-30-2003 - 7:10pm |
I'm married, unhappily. I met someone online, he is also unhappily married. We've been chatting and have instantly hit it off. We talk on the phone, we are like best friends. The instant chemistry is amazing. We want to meet in person. It's pretty obvious that this will turn into a EMA. We will both have to be so careful. Any advice from you pros? ;) What kind of excuses do you come up with so that you can get out of the house to go see MM/OM? Besides work, I don't go out much, so my H would be suspicious if I all of a sudden started going out. Plus MM can really only meet me in evenings due to his job. I would leave my marriage in a heartbeat, but I stay for two reasons only. Finances & Kids. Love to get to know all of you.

I really should not be here... but rather heading out the door... but I read your post and just felt the need to respond now rather than later.
I too met MM exactly the same way as you... on online in a chat room... we talked on the phone and then finally decided to meet and sometime later... well... things happened.
I can't say I'm a pro... but I certainly learn't from experience... try not to chance your behaviour too much... as yes! it will only create suspicion. You need to keep your home life pretty the way things are... even as hard as at may be at times.
As for getting out of the house... I now study part time in the evenings... and this can get me out of the house. Through this I have meet people that DH doesn't even know and can sometimes use the excuse that I'm having coffee or such and tie it all it.
You could maybe slowly start changing your habits... join a gym, a library... take up a sport or something this and then slowly change your going out habits.
Also... remember that while you can still be very careful... there will always be risks and you must be willing to accept the consquences. That is most important... also with regards to the EMA... should you go there... make you you both understand one another and that your needs and wants are both being met. There will always be good times and there will always be bad... but if the bad ever outweighs the good... it's time to move on.
Again... welcome to the board... and do keep us up to date on where you decide to take things.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
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Good luck!
And as the previous poster said about after physical, it would be hard to back off. I went into my EMA just expected physical. I never expected to fall in love. I tried so hard to keep it seperate, but could not! Good luck, ~passion