HE BROKE IT OFF..need advice

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Registered: 06-10-2003
HE BROKE IT OFF..need advice
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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 10:52pm
my lover broke it off !! why! we had one night of sex and a few days later when i asked if we could do it again he said he felt wierd and he felt bad because he is friends with my bf. Why do guys brag about meaningless sex but when its shoved in their face they dont want it!! way to make me feel rejected! Should i stop flirting with him and ignore him? do you think he would come back?
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Registered: 07-05-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 10:58pm
Oh yeah.. ignore him... don't chase him like a puppy, Guys always want what they can't have. Play hard to get... and if that don't work, forget him.. go on with life, don't get too caught up on a man who plays games!! It's not worth it!

But whatever you do... make a decision and stick with it.. we'll be here for ya.

hugs
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 11:01pm
thanks..im afraid he will think that he cant ask me for another fling if i ignore him. He feels guilty because hes friends with my bf of 4 years, so im not sure how serious he is about not wanting to do it again.
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Registered: 07-05-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 11:13pm
Guys normally aren't like that... if he wants to again, he'll ask, no matter what.. even if you're a total B to him! Try not to worry about it. Just don't let him think, he can have you when ever he wants, or he's better then your B/F!
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 11:16pm
sounds good to me thanks i feel a little better
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Registered: 06-18-2003
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 8:16am
Why would you WANT this guy if you have a boyfriend of four years AND you say yourself that it was just "meaningless sex"? If your sex life with your boyfriend is stale, or for other reasons you no longer want your boyfriend, then ditch the boyfriend and find a new guy who turns you on more.
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Registered: 06-14-2003
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 9:35am
Redfishrae --

UGH! What I want to write about this jerk is unprintable! That is such a schmucky thing to do! I totally agree with you about how guys (some girls too, to be fair!) brag about meaningless sex -- which I define as good sex, but without the strings and commitments -- and then can't handle it when they are actually presented with the situation?!

In my "don't get mad, get even" mind, I'd make sure to flirt with OTHER guys whenever he's around, so he'll be tortured by what he gave up ;o)

I wouldn't ignore him though -- it could make you seem like a sore loser (sorry, can't think of another term right now -- but you know what I mean). Stay friendly and polite, but shut him down otherwise.

I wouldn't be a bit surprised if he's coming back for more, full of apologies and explanations, within a month's time!

Emmy