My OM is a male slut...Tee Hee!!

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Registered: 04-24-2003
My OM is a male slut...Tee Hee!!
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 10:30am
So I haven't seen OM in almost two weeks. I'm not sure when I'll see him again either. Since we aren't really messing around or anything, just flirting like mad when we go out in a group, I really don't have any contact with him on a regular basis.

But that's probably a good thing. The last time we went out he told me he's slept with 25 women. I nearly spit my drink out! :) BWA-HA!

So that pretty much settled it for me. Flirt cause its fun and a great ego boost but never ever let it go any further than that!

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 1:41pm
I can relate. I've spotted other women's panties on my OM's bedroom floor before! He used to brag about flirting with the waitresses and such at his work ... I thought it bothered me. But actually, now that he has pretty much stopped (that I can tell) I feel kinda bad (not guilty mind you) for letting (making) him fall for me so hard. Now I don't know what to do.

So, which is nicer? Having a fun, flirtasious, naughty friendship? Or having the OM eventually fall in-love with you and want to get serious?

I'm struggling with that now. He was sexier when other women wanted him too I guess. That's pretty sick of me. LOL!

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:25pm
no derrygirl, I don't think that's sick of you at all.

I love watching OM hit on other girls and them hit on him when were out. There is something sexy about knowing he could have another girl if he wants to but he keeps coming back over by me.

I think if OM did fall hard for me then it wouldn't be nearly as much fun and same goes for if I actually fell for him.

His bad boy image is part of what turns me on.

But at the same time the idea of 25 women makes me think he must have an std. Now that sounds much more like my usual practical lodgical self. LOL! :)

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 4:20pm
"I think if OM did fall hard for me then it wouldn't be nearly as much fun and same goes for if I actually fell for him. "

Not to be a bitch but this seems more like a game to you. Maybe I dont understand that. I think that it is much more fun now that we have fallen for each other. I do agree that it is fun to watch other girls hit on my MM. But at the same time I like the fact that we are close and that it isnt a game anymore. It was fun playin cat and mouse at first, now my MM is separated from his W and we can do what we want now and that is great. It's not so easy for him financially but he will be ok. I thought that maybe once he finally did go through the separation that I wasnt going to want to be w/him anymore, but I was dead wrong and things are great now.

"But at the same time the idea of 25 women makes me think he must have an std."

Just because someone might have more partners than you, and in his case maybe quite a few, doesnt mean that he has an STD. Smart people are safe and we do take care of ourselves. You cant base an opinion on the number of partners that one has. And if you do then you arent openminded to things.

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 5:00pm
Down Tabby Down...

Retract the claws here for a minute.

In my case I don't want anything serious. Geez, I don't even want an EMA. That's why I've made a point of not going places I know he's going to be and I have had NC in about 2 weeks.

I have enough problems with my marriage, I don't need to add a whole other relationship to the mix. I didn't go looking for OM, we've just happened to both be out with the same group of friends a couple of times and started some friendly flirting. No harm, no foul. And certainly no games. If all of a sudden he told me he had fallen for me it would get way too complicated. Hence why it wouldn't be any fun anymore.

As for the std thing. Yes, you can sleep with 100 people and never get anything or you can sleep with one person and get something. You can be safe everytime or you can be like most people I know and once in a while slip up. There is nothing wrong with being cautious, especially when you know someone has a habbit of sleeping around and drunken one night stands.