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| Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:35pm |
Ok--this is for all the married females out there. Whether you have a MM or OM please answer these questions. I'm curious!
1. How many times a month do you see your MM/OM?
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes?
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved?
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you?
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you?
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H?
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun?
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying?

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1. How many times a month do you see your MM/OM? A few times a month since he is in another city.
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? Just sometimes, ok mostly all the time.
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? Definitely love involved
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? ?? Hmm, I'm not sure.
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? Yes
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? Yes, sometimes.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? I'm very unhappy in my marriage. My MM gives me all the love and romance that H never does.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? 2 reasons only, finances and kids!
This does not apply to me as I am deeep in NC. :)
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes?
n/a
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved?
Mostly love, but it doesn't hurt to have the "benefits". lol
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you?
No, only for my reasons. oops, forgot to add that MM should be leaving his M only for his reasons. :)
5. Des your MM/OM tell you that he loves you?
Yes.
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H?
No.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun?
I was in an unhappy M, but not anymore. I could never be in a flirty/fun/superficial R's.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying?
n/a
Edited 7/31/2003 4:08:18 PM ET by learning_french
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? We are just flirting at this point. No fooling around. By my choice.
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? For me its all about sex. I just need some physical contact.
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? N/A
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? N/A (but he tells me he thinks about me when he masterbates!! **blushing**
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? No, I haven't done anything that I have to be guilty about yet.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? I'm in a very unhappy marriage and this is just about flirty fun for me. A release.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? I don't know why I stay. Guilt. Pride. I've only been married 9 months and it just doesn't see right to leave so soon even if H is an a$$. I chose to marry him and I feel like I have to stick with my choice.
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? Most of the time we do
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? Definately love involved but the sex is great
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? OM is single and from the beginning has said he woudl never ask me to leave H, it has to be my decision alone
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? Yes
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? Sometimes, but it passes
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? My M wasn't all that bad, but the stresses of everyday life have worn thin, I would have to say I love OM but the sex/flirty fun are a great perk.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? I am staying because of the kids and the circumstances and I don't feel I can or want to make this move at this point in my life.
1. How many times a month do you see your MM/OM? at least 4, as much as 10.
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes?
we always have sex. try as we might, we can't keep our hands off each other. the 2 times we've been away overnight, we had to make ourselves leave the hotel room!
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved?
started as only sex -- neither one of us was getting laid at home, but the relationship has grown and we love and care deeply about each other. haven't said the "love" word out loud, but everything else.
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you?
in a heartbeat!
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you?
he actually left two separate voicemail messages saying that he was in love with me, but he's never said it in person. i'm too afraid to say it. if i do, i'll say everything that's in my heart and i'm not quite ready for that.
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H?
nope. my BF was selfish for a long time, but i stayed with him because i love him, but i'm not in love with him. i keep trying, but it's not working out.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun?
i was very unhappy in my R and so was he, but we are all very good friends and in constant company socially so if we were to leave our respective relationships, he and i would have to leave town and start over elsewhere. neither one of us is willing to do that just yet. he's retiring in a year and after that who knows....
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying?
as i said above, i'm still trying to work out this relationship. there are issues that i don't think will ever be resolved and i'll have to make a decision sooner or later. i'm opting for later right now.
so there you have it....
gurl
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? Only about once a month, when we can spend a few hours together.
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? We love each other very much, but even from the start it was never about just sex.
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? No, and he doesn't want to leave his marriage, either.
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? Every day, usually more than once.
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? Never.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? I'm in a happy marriage and in an EMA for fun, love, sex, all the reasons you would normally have a relationship with someone.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? I love my DH, I'm in love with him, we've been together for decades, we have children, we have a life together.
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? Sometimes, when we can get away without causing suspicion.
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? I want to believe that he feels the same way I do. He doesn't tell me very often.
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? IN A HEARTBEAT.
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? He doesn't say it often but I know he feels it.
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? Sometimes.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? Unhappy marriage and in EMA for love/relationship.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? 2 kids
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? Most of the time we do, at my persuasion of course! lol
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? On my end, it was supposed to be just sex. But love got involved. ;)
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? Doesn't apply! my OM is single. *BUT* if he gave me an ultimatum, I am almost sure I would choose my H. (I'll explain why in the 8th question.)
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? Yes he does. :)
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? Honestly, no. Because my H lacks treating me like anything but his personal maid.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? I'm in an unhappy marriage on my side. My H always thinks things are great. Things are great as long as I'm getting what I need elsewhere. It started I was in the EMA for sex and flirty fun, but now I'm in it for that *plus* the love and companionship.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? Financial and children. And we do make good parents together. I know the longer I stay, the more financial strings will keep me attached.. (Such as buying a house...)
Thanks for the questions:) ~passion
Several time... at least once or twice a week..
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes?
Not always... depends on how long it's been since we've been together.
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved?
Not only about sex... we share a friendship, common interests etc.... but it is not "love" in the romantic sense.
4. If you MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you?
I would never leave my marriage for someone else... only for myself (which I am doing)
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you?
No
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H?
No
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun?
A bit of both... not fulfilled by my marriage, both sexually and emotionally... so found my friend and lover in OM.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying?
We are separated but the divorce is not final yet.
2. During these times you see him, do you always have sex? Or just sometimes? Sometimes, but tried for always.
3. Is your EMA about only sex, or is there love involved? It is much more about love than sex. Love came first (and I definitely wish there was more opportunity for sex!).
4. If your MM wanted you to leave your M and he would leave his, would you? I am leaving mine. He has made clear that he will never leave his (I have a very hard time with that).
5. Does your MM/OM tell you that he loves you? Yes, in his way.
6. Do you feel guilty when you are around your H? I sometimes did, but I was surprised that I didn't really.
7. Are you in an unhappy marriage, and in the EMA for love/relationship, OR are you just in the EMA for sex/flirty fun? I was in an unhappy marriage on my part, but was not looking for an EMA. I never in a million years would have thought to find myself in an EMA. Life used to be very black and white, and much easier. I fell in love with my MM. We connected in such a way that the EMA was the only answer even though it is not easy for either one of us.
8. If you are still in your marriage, what reasons do you have for staying? I am getting a D. The only reason I would have stayed is for my children, but for many reasons I think they will end up happier my H and I are parenting apart. I could not think of any other reason to stay, except for my own anxieties and fears about being a divorced woman in her 30s with kids.
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