LG (and anyone else!), I need you to...

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Registered: 05-29-2003
LG (and anyone else!), I need you to...
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 3:12pm
remind me again...I don't know if you remember, but a couple of weeks ago you gave me some very good advice for a brand new EMA..."don't get too weird too soon" and "just let it unfold". I've known MM for three years before this EMA started and know that he is very busy and when we see each other its kind of catch as catch can, only of course now that the relationship has become much more intimate I want to be with him all the time and plan, plan, plan for that! I'm not trying to make him do that because I know it will drive him crazy and make him feel like he has one more obligation to fulfill, but I'm having a hard time today with it and thought it would help if you told me again to just leave things alone....thanks!

JB
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Registered: 06-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 3:59pm
Dear Jeanbob,

I agree with your rational side telling you to

just step back.

I find when I think with my heart, I usually blow

it. My heart has no rational part, it only feels.

It can be tough, I have smothered a good budding

R before myself. Step back and relax, if you can.

Good luck

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:19pm
Thanks, Desert, for the kind words. I enjoy your posts quite a lot. Are you by any chance a writer? You obviously put lots of thought and heart into what you write in your posts...and you're very articulate!

JB
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 6:46pm
Hi JB,

I can relate to how you feel and I've been there many a time... after 3 years I still do and I get very frustrated. MM and I know each other well and I will often tell him how frustrated I am with things... but at the same time... I also let him know that I never blame him for it... he in turn tells me that the frustration is no different from his end.

I too find coming here to be a solace of some sort... maybe air and vent my feelings... of just offer some support to someone else just somehow gives me strength... can't explain it... but it does.

Hang in there hon... you'll get through it.

luv and hugs

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