i need to talk to someone

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Registered: 08-05-2003
i need to talk to someone
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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 2:36pm
i just cheated on my husband that has been my husband for 8 years i did it with his best friend i hated it and i didnt know how to stop it i was afraid if i tried to stop him he would tell my husband. alot has happened between me and my husband he has hurt me so many time before maybe i just wanted to hurt him back i need help
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 2:48pm
I'm cheating my my BF of 4 years with his best friend so I may be able to relate ... feel free to email me if you like, I'll be online after 8pm CST again tonight Tues. 8/5/03

jacknaper@hotmail.com

We can talk if you'd like to. I would. I'll keep check up on this topic as well dear.

Jessa aka DerryGirl

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 4:26pm
If you would like to talk to me as well my email is elizjason@hotmail.com.

I have been having an EMA with my husband's best friend for the past 3 months. I may understand some of what you are going through.

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Registered: 07-17-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 5:00pm
What you've done is make a feeble attempt to get back at your husband for something horrible he did to you, and instead, you hurt yourself. Is your H aware of what you've done? May I just say that two wrongs DO NOT make a right. But, what's done is done. There's no sense in reliving it, though, now you know that sleeping with your H's best friend will not heal your wounds or undo the things he has done wrong to you. Now is a good time to work on all your problems in your marriage and focus on the future; you can't change what happened recently. But, you can learn from it and go on. What is it that you need that your H isn't giving you? And, what is it that your H needs from you? I truly believe that if we focus most of our attention on our mates and vice versa, the marriage can't fail. Unfortunately, that focus is usually one-way, and that's where we have affairs.

Good luck to you! Hugs to you, also! Keep your chin up--again, focus on the future. You can make this marriage work, but it has to be done in a straight-forward manner.