MM canceled again

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 7:42pm





Edited 9/18/2003 12:52:57 AM ET by lexylew

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In reply to: lexylew
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 8:34pm
Oh Lexylew,

I am feeling your pain right now! That completely sucks! Don't ya hate how you got all excited, had that special little feeling going on (not to mention the added fact of the new lingerie!), and then BAM :o(

I can understand your frustration, especially with the whole beck and call thing eating away at you. I've begun to feel like I have been altering my schedule for my MM, in order to be available whenever it suits him. He's not taking advantage of it or anything, but it's something I'm aware of, and don't want to let it control my life or actions!

It's good that you have a very understanding babysitter! While I don't have kids, I always wonder how those of you with kids manage to handle so many different demands on your time.

I have no answers to offer, only support. I think I'd hold off on calling him, but don't be afraid to tell him that you were disappointed or annoyed. I'd try to do it in a non-accusatory way, so that you don't sound too bent out of shape, otherwise it might sound like the control/nagging he's getting at home. Just some thoughts.

Hugs!

Emmy

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:03pm
Thanks again


Edited 9/19/2003 12:53:27 AM ET by lexylew
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 9:37am
Lexy,

Hang in there. I know the next couple of days will be hard with H home but see if MM calls you. Try not calling him for a day or two and then when you do call him he should be apologitic that he missed your time together. And please, I have said this before to you, DO NOT put your kids second, they should always come first. He must understand that not all of us have nanny's and some of us have to take care of our own kids. That is great about your babysitter, that should make things a little easier when H is working, but also be very careful because that is one more person that knows about your A.

Hang in there and let me know what happens. HUGS DAF

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 11:14am
Hey Lexylew..

I read your other post and now this one...dont be afraid to let him know how you feel...and I think you should let him know you did not cancel on him becuase you were really excited about seeing him. Thats just me though...I say whats on my mind good or bad...like it or not. My MM does not like that about me...and I tell him deal with it this is who I am..the truth does hurt at times. But I feel if I dont express myself he wont know how I am feeling..and if he does not like it or agree with me and decides to get upset then oh well...obviously he did not care enough to be understanding to my feelings. Thats just the way I see things...its worked for me. I have to be happy with myself before I make anyone else happy. And true your kids should come first as hard as it may be and easier said then done. Most of the time when I do have my son I tell him I cant see him...but once in a while I get weak and leave him alone with the nanny for an hour or so. But I try to be with him when I have him as much as I can.

But I understand the part where your upset over him cancelling...I would be too...it sucks to wait on them...even though I tell my MM im not waiting on him I tend to do that I dont go out with anyone else not even intrested and thats sad.

Yea be carefull with the babysitter like daf said one more person knows...you just never know who to trust. Dont make her mad!!

Hugs - Sandy

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:11pm





Edited 9/18/2003 12:54:21 AM ET by lexylew
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:17pm
Lexylew,

Have to jump in here . . .

Upon reading your update, my first thought was SCREW HIM!!! (Actually, it was not that nice, but you get the drift!)

MM may not be able to control his W tagging along, or stuff like that. But he could certainly be understanding of your disappointment and letdown!

UGH!!!!!!!!

Thinking 'bout ya!

Emmy

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:24pm





Edited 9/18/2003 12:55:03 AM ET by lexylew
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:39pm
Hey Lexylew...

My email is TXSandy_98@yahoo.com...I think you forgot the underscore after y and before 98...try that again...if you dont mind.

So you have not talked to your MM...he has not called you?? Does he usually call you back pretty quick?? Maybe he is in a meeting..you never know!!

Well I know how you feel with being prepared then nothing...that sucks and hurts...I have been there!! Well im sure everything will work out and everything should be back to normal...

Well hope you email me..talk to u soon..

-Sandy


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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:44pm





Edited 9/18/2003 12:55:46 AM ET by lexylew
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 4:47pm
GOOD - I'll be waiting for your email..if it comes back to you let me have yours and i'll email u if thats ok...

What schedule??

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