Do I offer to end it?

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Do I offer to end it?
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Thu, 08-07-2003 - 7:01am
Well, after the little fiasco yesterday, I know that MM is pretty tore up and upset... just the thought of our significant others finding out was rough. So, now, do I offer to end it? Would it makes things better if I did? I mean, we have already agreed to lay low for a while, but should I offer to break ties completely... other than what we have to have at work anyway? What are your throughts? I know some of you have been here before, so I need your expertise! And if he takes me up on it, how do you mend a broken heart?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 8:09am
Hey Work Wife

You have to do what is best for you.

If you think you should end it then do so.

But don't be suprised if when you offer to end it that he doesn't change his mind.

At one point Joe & I had words, and I told him fine if you don't want to see me anymore ok. We still work together, we still sit on committees, but I will walk away from you and our realtionship.

Changed his mind fast, to I was just trying to protect you. I'm afraid that people are going to see you at my office and talk all it takes is on comment.


Be strong and we are here for you

EJ

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 9:30am
hi workwife. i haven't been on for a few days but i imagine you and MM had a close call on being discovered. i've been there too. happened in february. we laid low for a couple of weeks and i did give my MM the option of calling off the whole relationship. i was ready for whatever he decided. my close call was my fault and i put him in a horrible position, potentially. but it all worked out. MM stayed with me. i've been devoting more attention and time to BF and he's happy.

so basically, you have to be prepared for the answer if you make the offer. you'll deal with whatever comes.

good luck,

gurl

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 1:56pm
Thanks all! Well, I did it. I talked to him, actually just a few minutes ago and I was ready for whatever he said. He told me that it DID upset him at the fact that we were almost discovered, but he wanted to use that as a learning tool. We have agreed to NOTHING at work, except work related stuff. So, we will talk (as we do every afternoon on his way home) and then we will pick and chose our moments - outside of work. I feel so relieved! I really didn't want it to end and I am so glad that he didn't either!