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| Thu, 08-07-2003 - 3:34pm |
I'm off this week and the only way that me and MM have more contact is when i'm at work. I decided to call him yesterday but he didn't seem as excited about hearing from me as i was about him, and we haven't had any contact since Friday last week. I kept talking to him from home on the computer after that but i feel that things don't seem the same, he's busy and i don't feel like were connecting as we do when i'm at work. I don't know what to do, should i stay away from him until Monday when he takes the iniative to call me,and give him space to make him miss me? Am i overeacting? I sure miss him alot and he said he misses me too. Any comments, would be great...

Not sure that I can offer any advice... I can certainly relate to how you feel though to a point. MM at times gets very busy at work... which he is presently... it used to bother me that I would send him email and never get anything back. Now though... I understand... but he also realises too I think, because when he is unavailable... he always lets me know. However there are times... even now... when I do hold off sending him email and let him get in touch with me... I know he does think of me... but it's nice every now and then to get that first email wondering where I am and if all is ok.
Because your MM is busy and you are not there as a distraction ;) he may just be making the most of the time that he has to get a lot more done... if you know what I mean? you being there... of course he will make the time to talk you and such.
I'd try give him the time... and also make the most of yours... do something special for yourself... like a massage or facial and just enjoy the time that you have off work.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
Half an hour to an hour a week... I wish I could be so lucky :) I can't really tell you what to do... for myself... when MM is off work, I will email him daily and then leave any contact up to him. He will usually tell me if he might be able to arrange to see me and I leave things at that... having children he likes to spend time with them... which is fair enough. As for me... being that I'm a SAHM... things don't usually change much.
I know there is the urge to see him and do so if you feel the need... I can't say how he will react... I used to think that MM would be annoyed with my emails... but I don't feel that anymore. You are the best one to judge him.
Sorry... I'm not much of a help this afternoon.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
I would suggest that you take this time away to figure out what you are looking for in this A and think about what MM can really offer you. You should also be honest w/ yourself and figure out what you can really handle. In my opinion if you have nothing but tension and anxiety in your life as a result of this A then maybe you should just walk away. After all it's not really worth all of that is it? I would not contact him over the weekend either and on Monday I would play it cool and distant. Let MM come to you (you know he will) and let nature take its course. I too am a drug addict but life does go on w or w/o MM. As for the games, I think that most A's involve games at some point. Isn't that part of the draw to the A?
Good luck and be strong.
T.H.