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| Fri, 08-08-2003 - 12:31am |
help me what do i do mm has persued me for a year, we began spending more time togather and started having an emoitional affair. I have had very intense feelings for mm since the day i met him so about four months ago it became physical. in the beginning he seemed to be contemplating leaving w and was not happy. one day while we were togather i asked mm if he feels any diffrent now that he is seeing me. his response was i am alot happier well now he and his wife are buying a house and they suddenly get along.we had discussed affairs in the past and he said he has herd they can help a marriage. so am i a marital aide? I dont know what to do i love to be with him but i dont want to feel used.

unfortunately for you... this can definitely be the case. Many people find they are simply lacking something in their marriage and once that are getting that fullfilled elsewhere, can continue to live a happy home life.
I guess MM and I do very much the same with each other... while we certainly have our problems at home with our spouses... I know for myself, MM makes that life so much better. I have someone there who will pick me up when I need it and through him I can perspective to my DH as well... and I'm sure I give it back to him. While it may not be perfect... it works for us.
You really need to consider what you want and need... if you want to continue with the relationship you must understand that he may never leave his wife... can you live with that and being second best???? if not... then it may be time to think seriously about this relationship and maybe move on.
I know that it can be hard when feelings are involved... but trust me... it will only get worse.
It really all comes down to what YOU can live with and no one else.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
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Like I always say - if it bothers you, get out. Otherwise, enjoy what you have for what it is.