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Pulling back
| Fri, 08-08-2003 - 11:46am |
Just wondering if most of the women out there experience this intense kind of 'push and pull' with their MM. My MM seems to open up emotionally at times, and when I respond to him, he pulls back. Does anyone else experience this often? Any guys out there who can tell me why? I think I know why (it's not too hard to figure out), but I think I would like to hear some other experiences or perspectives. Thanks!
Edited 8/8/2003 11:49:05 AM ET by charlotte1203
Edited 8/8/2003 11:49:05 AM ET by charlotte1203

Good luck!!
These guys are constantly having a moral struggle with what they are doing.
Think about it. They are married or committed to someone yet share emotional/physical relationships with other women. As it gets deeper/closer/more serious, they pull back because of guilt, fear, etc.
How is this confusing? I'm not being a smart a$$, it's just so obvious to me.
I'm the one who jumps in and pulls back in the relationship. (I am M, he is S.) It is mainly due to guilt, to my need for time to sort things out. OM is patient, understanding and gives me room. It works every time. I come running back as soon as I realize what's eating at me and I get over it. If OM pushed or pried, I'd go running off, sreaming into the night.
Pug
I understand where you are coming from... it is frustrating and it hurts like hell!
Hugs to you
RH.
Good luck!!
To be honest, MM & I both pull back. We both need breaks to keep our heads clear and to keep a perspective - to stay "real".
You know, I don't know that men necessarily "compartmentalize". I know MM thinks of me even when we aren't together, just as he does of his children, parents, W, etc. when he isn't with them - and just as he thinks about work when he isn't at work - and just as he thinks about food when he isn't hungry. Although he can be focused on what he is doing, his subconscious can play out a memory that triggers him to think of something else.
It's not good to focus on one thing too long, because one loses focus on other areas in their life. When I start focusing too much on MM, I need to pull back and get a balance - because every aspect in my life is important and deserves it's own time.
Just my two cents, according to my own experience.
Meow