BIG dilemma, please help me out
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| Fri, 08-08-2003 - 2:29pm |
I haven't been on this board lately because I ended up taking a trip with H and I have to say it was a real eye opener. I found myself remembering why I fell in love with him in the first place and I decided I want to get out of my R with OM and work on things with H. Now here is where it gets difficult.
Since I've been back, OM is trying to see me and we made plans before I left but now I don't want to go through with them. I don't know how to break this to him and how I'm going to end it. I still have strong feelings for him but I need to get out of this.
Also, my 'best friend' Laura has done just about everything else besides stating the fact that she wants my H. She flirts with him constantly and even 'joked' to me I should leave him for OM and she would go for H. H is angry about this too because it upsets me and he says he would never leave me for her.
Since Laura knows about OM, it worries me that she will use that against me since I have decided to stay with H. So my options are 1. Tell H everything and have him leave me 2. Pray that Laura doesn't tell H, although eventually she likely will and he will leave me. I don't want these options to happen! I want to live an honest life with H and forget OM ever entered my life.
Please help me, I have no idea what to do.

Don't know if this helps.
Hugs,
itty
I'm sure this is really difficult to go through. I can't imagine how torn you're feeling. But I think I'd go the honesty route. Since there's a good chance your 'friend' (and I use that term loosely) would tell him anyway, I think it best he hear it from you. Sometimes honesty isn't the best thing, it only helps deal with your own guilt. But if he's going to find out anyway....
As for how to tell OM, I'm afraid I can't help you. I don't have a clue, but I know it will be difficult. How long have you and OM been together?
{{HUGS}}
Lucky
Be honest with OM and tell him
you want to work things out with
your H. I'm sure he'll understand.
As for your "friend", ugh. I don't
know. She does sound like she'd say
something, so as far as telling your
H... Perhaps you doing it would be
best. My H found out and he didn't
leave and as far as I know, a lot
of the spouses stay... But I don't
know!
Hope your okay, know we're all here
for you! Keep us updated. Oh yeah..
Have you talked to Laura about this?
Have you told her that you want to
work out your M? Perhaps telling her
you are working out your M would
set her straight?
Just a thought! ~passion
I've been with OM only for about six months and I still have very strong feelings for him but I think it would be best to work things out with H, so breaking it off with OM is going to be hard for me but I have to do it.
I really don't think H and my friend have something going on, but I know her R with her H is horrible and she is jealous because my H treats me much better than her H ever has treated her. At first I thought it was simply jealousy but her comments have been going too far. I don't want to lose her friendship but this is really hurting me.
I would like to tell H so we can start 'fresh', that is if he doesn't leave me over it. I almost did it yesterday but we were having such a wonderful time together I couldn't ruin it. I don't know if any time will ever be the right time.
AKA