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Who's gotten caught?
| Fri, 08-08-2003 - 8:21pm |
Who out there has gotten caught? Who has kept it under wraps?
I'll start: I'm in an LDEMA... H is not suspicious, doesn't sniff around. I've been able to cover my tracks very easily. It's getting to the point that I'm getting lackadaisical and might become sloppy. OM has been good at keeping our secret so far. I hope it all stays this way, as I am terrified of humiliating H.
Other experiences?
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My first EMA, I didn't hide it, so I got caught.
That's what I wanted... It didn't change a thing
around here except now have H know not to trust
me. I deserve it I guess... But it doesn't stop
me now.
I guess for me now, it's a little easier because
I was caught... I go out and I tell him where I'm
going, (of course I lie..) but he figures since I
got caught, I'm not going to do it again.. I know
he doesn't trust me, and that's why I get asked
a few questions, but I am now great at covering
my tracks.
Well, that's all the experience I have in this area..
Just keep thinking ahead and don't get sloppy!
Since you realize that, it's a good sign that you
will keep on the up and up of things!
Good luck:) ~passion
Good Luck
We haven't precisely been "caught", but W had been suspicious for a few months, and actually named me to MM. It was nerve-wracking for a while - I wondered at the time if MM would want to end it.
We're more careful now - though there is always the risk. I definitely would not want to get caught...
Be careful!
Meow
Hugs,
itty
I think, though, if H were honest with himself, he'd say he knows I'm fooling around on him. I really *don't* want to hurt him and hope that I can keep the A a secret until I move out (hopefully sometime in September!!).
Lucky
I can't say if I would ever have another A...I have thought about it and if the situation was right...I might...but not right now! H loves me and I love him...in love..I think he is...but I don't think I ever have been! Live and let live right?
Just my two cents! Red
Liberal
Yes! I've been caught out previously in my EMA... it was about 8 months into it that it all happened. DH and I had been having problems and been going to counselling... I had meet MM online about 10 months or so before and I used to try get on whenever I could to chat to him in the chat room or even during the day on ICQ. I guess I was careless and didn't cover everthing... although I passworded my ICQ, this made DH suspicious and he downloaded a programe to crack into it and found many a conversation with MM.
He confronted me in a counselling session and armed with a little too much information... I could not deny it and basically shrugged my shoulders to the whole situation. I was in fact, this very counselling session going to ask for a trial separation... I'd been through everything and was determined... it was not for MM but for me... MM would only be there as a friend. DH however said that it was either I go and go for good or I stay and work on my marriage... as I wasn't prepared to completely walk away... I was still going to work on us while separated... I chose to stay as I did not want DH to think I was leaving for another man.
That was over 2 years ago now... 3 years on and I'm still seeing the same MM... he knows all and would have walked away at anytime I asked... but I never did and he's still here and still telling me to be careful... which these days... I am!
I changed the way I handled things... I no longer spend time at night on the pc and leave my emails to MM for during the day... I'm not trying to avoid sex... although I do at times ;) and I make sure that we spend plenty of time as a family. I don't believe that I give DH anything to be suspect over.
Sweet
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anyway, he finally confronted me with the "A" and i denied the entire thing. told him i made it up and wrote that stuff because i was so unhappy with him and had this fantasy going in my head. after an entire week of discussion and crying and yelling, he finally accepted my explanation and we moved on. i agreed to limit our social life with MM and his W (we are all friends) so BF and i could get back on track.
a good by-product evolved from that fiasco -- BF and i talked about all our issues and many of them are being resolved and/or worked on. not perfect, but getting there. some things will never change, but that's a fact of life when you love someone. you have to accept the things you cannot change and live with that fact or get out of the R/M.
and my MM knows all of this and stayed with our A. in fact, it's more involved than ever. we just recently told each other the dreaded "love" word. and we are more careful about contact, eye or physical, when we are together. MM and i stay connected every day, even if it's a voicemail message on our cells. we don't use the computer at all to communicate. he can't because of his job.
life goes on....
gurl
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