Hello...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
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Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:44pm
For any of my friends who may be still lurking, I thought I would post an update.

I am quite happy! I wouldn't say content - I hope I can remember there is always something just around the bend and not get complacent. But I'm right where I want to be right now - great new job (better pay), seperated from H (with D imminent), and in a wonderful relationship with MM.

It's almost a year! that MM & I have been FWB. I know some of you can relate in that we are just so easy and comfortable with each other - maybe partly because we don't have any expectations in where we are going, and partly because we continue to find ways in which we are similar. We're just so compatible...as how our relationship is now. Damn if I don't love him (and I don't mean the romantic in love).

I haven't even been lurking lately, but I've missed our discussions and muses. I'll be lurking for a bit to read updates of you!

Hugs,

Meow

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Registered: 03-29-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:53pm
Hey Meow, I've been wondering where you

were and where others are... I've been

lurking lately too. Not sure if you've

read my recent posts... But things between

my OM and I are basically over... He called

today to see how I was, but who knows if

that A will ever be fixed... I have already

found a FWB, so all is not lost! I would have

liked it if my A with OM woudl have worked out

but what can I do if he couldn't handle this

sort of R? Hope to see more posts from you!

~passion

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 9:39pm
Hello Meow,

Glad to hear that things are going well and you are happy...if not content(?). Sounds like you have a lot of positive things going on what would allow a "putting the feet up in contentment" moment though. LOL

Take care!

Rose

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Registered: 04-20-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 7:49am
Hi Meow!!

It's great to see you back! I am so very glad that things are going so good for you! I'm right there with you I think! I haven't been here very much myself lately. No deep thoughts or huge emotional turmoils going on. And I'm not quite sure why not!! SOOOOO many things have changed for me. I thought I would be a wreck by now! When I was posting before, we had had no IC in over a year.....

Well, I have moved into my own place with my children finally. ( I had been at my parents since the D). MUCH closer to MM and work. I had just gotten to a place where I was completely okay with NC on the weekends, and now.....he came over yesterday for a bit. AND called me later from his house (I'm a local call now). We've been having "lunch" once or twice a week here. It's so amazing.

Just trying to keep it all in perspective. So weird seeing him sitting on MY couch, laying in MY bed. It's a whole new thing for us. I think just everything that I learned from all of you here (especially you Meow!) is what's keeping me steady. Or heck, maybe it's just that I'm getting some again...FINALLY!! LOL!!


CFH

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 8:19am
hi meow so happy to see you great things are going well for you.l think saw l had cancer scare so happy still cancer free.but still feel so sad lonely l'm still hurt by that single guy to me.makes feel old not pretty enough l don't what went wrong for us l was so good to him not he wants to be with trash now. happy to see you we all miss you. makes miss special friend so bad right now he lives never state so hard be with him. hugs kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 06-26-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 2:48pm
Meow,

I am so happy to see that things are OK for you! I don't have much of an update for myself all though OM and I are no longer "together" we still talk and will always be friends. Everything is all right for now...for now!

Hope to see you around more..to many new names! LOL No offense to anyone!!!!! Just nice to see a friendly name! Laters, Red

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Mon, 08-11-2003 - 11:47pm
Hey meow,

I'm just slowly catching up after the weekend and it was so good to see your name there. I certainly have missed you... even though I'm cl and here for everyone... I sort of feel a little out of it these days with all my 'oldies' disappearing on me. But a new lot of ladies on the board and I try and help out the best I can.

I'm glad to hear that all is ok with you and that you are happy... It's a good place to be in.

Hope to hear more from you when you can.

luv and hugs

Sweet

Sweet
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Registered: 07-10-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 10:29pm
Hi Meow...... I have been trying to end my ema for several months now.... or should I say that he has? It has been a long, hard struggle, and it's still not over. I still talk to him three or four times a day, even though we're "broken up". I've probably seen him about four times throughout the entire summer.... Even though we're ending, I still entertain this fantasy of him saying, "I didn't really mean it.... I want you.... the heck with our families!" even though I wouldn't discard my family either.

I hope you're doing okay..... I'm not going to say who I am because I feel we're so scrutinized..... If you think you know my identity, email me. But I am thinking about you.

Love,

Me

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Thu, 08-14-2003 - 12:36am
Hi Passion...

I don't know that I should say I'm sorry that your A didn't work out with OM - I don't mean to sound harsh, but people keep saying to me, "I'm sorry you are getting divorced", "Can't you work it out", and they can't understand that it's actually good for me. So, I have to assume it's good for *you* in the long run if it wasn't working out.

It seems you've moved on a bit though! I hope you and xOM can remain friends, if that's what you want.

When things have settled down and aren't so chaotic (having moved and changed job) hopefully I will have more *me* time to muse and post, lol.

Thanks for responding - see you around!

Hugs,

Meow

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Thu, 08-14-2003 - 12:50am
Hi Rose!

(I noticed you used an icon, lol).

I *will* have a putting up the feet moment (or two) when I feel more settled - to be honest I've enjoyed the chaos without worrying how it would all turn out, after stewing in my misery (re. D) for so long.

I meant to say a thank you in my original post to the board in general and my friends who put up with my muses, lol. Rose, you are the one who mentioned I allowed disrespect, etc. - and while I didn't *consider* myself a victim, I guess I was being a martyr - your comment, while I didn't appreciate it at the time, did allow me a different perspective. Ah well, one should always be living and learning - thank you for the insight.

I hope all is well with you. I look forward to an update when you have one.

Cheers,

Meow

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: hes_my_cats_meow
Thu, 08-14-2003 - 1:12am
Hey CFH! Nice to see you too.

You know, I think mostly what is keeping you steady is you - you are obviously positive and upbeat, which is partly a result of your having your own place (yay for you!).

You mentioned that you thought you would be a wreck by now - and I think that is half of it, the worrying about how a situation would turn out before it even happened. I guess you trusted yourself while you were making decisions and taking action, and got through it, and that has empowered you. Oh, I know we need to remain realistic and consider a worse case scenerio at times, but once we've allowed our mind to touch on the possible scenerio, we should acknowledge it and shelve it, making no decisions on how we would handle that until we come to it.

Don't worry -be happy!

Hugs,

Meow

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