how to tell H i want a D???

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Registered: 07-22-2003
how to tell H i want a D???
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 4:18pm
Hi, I don't have much time my h should be home anytime. I can't give you the whole story right now, but this is the short version, moved in together when I was 17 married at 21, he never grew up, he's an addict, but has been clean for a year, he has a daughter age 13 we have a 3 & 4 yr old, even though he's clean now, all the things from the past, I just can't let go and love him. I have been trying to tell him I want out but don't want to hurt him, I told him I was in counseling and had made some decisions about our relationship, & he says he'll do whatever to fix our M. I can't stand his compulsive , selfish behavior any longer. & 2 weeks ago I started an EMA with a co-worker. We have been friends for 4 yr and both are unhappy in our M. I'm falling in love with him. I feel bad about this, but I did it anyway. I have wanted out of my M for several years, I feel like my life is passing before me. How do I tell him I want a divorce??? Do I need to do anything first? We are filing bankruptcy as well, so there's allot more stress. I don't want to hurt him but I can't live with him anymore. We are going on vacation tomorrow & I'm dreading it, he keeps asking me if I 'm excited to go, my OM is out of state for a week picking up his kids from a visit with grandparents, now I'll be gone a week then I only get to see him one day and he's having surgery, I hate the thought of not seeing him for 3 weeks, we have been on the phone several times a day, but it sucks. I have to tell my husband, not about ema, but separation, I'm going on this vacation as a last time thing for the kids, they have been looking forward to going & there's NO WAY I'd let H take them by himself. Well, I feel a little better just writing this.

AKA