another woman coming on to my om,help!!!
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another woman coming on to my om,help!!!
| Mon, 08-11-2003 - 12:14am |
ok,this is kinda long but i feel like i need to explain so youll understand my situation better.my om of about a yr lives with 5 other guys in a big house.theres also another house full of single men accross the street.my om is hispanic as well as the others who live around and with him.ok one of the men had a womaN LIVING WITH HIM and dumped her because she was having sex with all the other guys.so she moved into a tiny basement rm herself and kinda sleeps with everyone.so when i start seeing om this woman was living in her rm alone already.she was extremley rude and nasty to me from the beginning.she only speaks spanish so she never actually talked to me,just gave me nasty looks.well i would visit om and go right in the house{he told me it was ok since they have no actual living rm,the rms are all made into bdrms except the kitchen and bath}so i would walk into oms bdrm and see this .itch sitting in a chair by his bed watching tv while om was asleep.he shares this rm with another guy also.at first i asked him if something happened with him and this woman,which could be why she hated me so much.but he swears he never touched her.i do believe him.my guy is very nice to others and doesnt have a hurtful bone in his body.after awhile he told me how this witch had come in his rm several times without clothes wanting sex.when he told her no she would ask if he was gay{because i was the only woman hes been with since hes been in the states and because he wouldnt touch her}om had a long talk with her about 2 wks ago and told her to please stop coming on to him because he didnt like her like that.and then he went on to tell her maybe she should look for a nice man and change her life.she told him she was in love with him and will not leave him alone!i know its true because i had been talking to him on the phone and he had set it down when she came in the rm.my husband is hispanic so i understand spanish.but the thing is she continues to bother him and he told me when hes cooking she will grab his butt or come up behind him and kiss him on the neck ect..this makes me very angry.we are planning on living together in a few months so should i let it go or talk to this woman myself? i just feel uncomfortable doing this because its not my house.any ideas on if i should talk to her or anythoing i can tell om to tell her that might work?

Since your OM is telling her to back off, leave
it to him. He'll take care of the situation.
Here's an idea... Since she's asking him if he's
gay, perhaps he can just tell her he is. Maybe
that will work..
Good luck! ~passion
And talking to her will do you no good. If some woman talked to YOU and told you to stay away from her guy, would YOU listen? It is up to your OM. If you two have an exclusive relationship (except for your husband), then it is up to him to fend off the other ladies who go after him. If it is within his values to sleep with slutty women just because they come onto him, then sweetie, I am sorry to say, he will. But if it is not within his values to do so, then he will refrain from doing so. If you are NOT in an exclusive relationship with the OM, then this really is none of your business anyway...unfortunately.
Tell him that you're sure he can figure out how to get her to leave him alone, and that even if he can't, well, he doesn't have to sleep with her in any event.
As for yourself... sure she's a b#@$& but don't prove yourself to be the same... rise about her and prove yourself better and just simply ignore her. There's nothing more than an attention seeker will hate more than being ignored.
good luck hon...
luv and hugs
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