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Gurlfriend....I have a question based on
| Mon, 08-11-2003 - 5:01pm |
a post of yours regarding trust in an EMA.
What if you married or lived with your MM, and you became unable to have sex for a legitimate reason - perhaps you got vulvadynia or cervical cancer or genital herpes, and it became impossible to have sex for an extended period of time? Would you then be worried that he would cheat on you?
Or what if you lived with your MM, and you were raped by someone, so sex became scary to you, and you were in therapy, but still, you were unable to have sex for an extended period of time?
Would you expect him to cheat because he is horny?
I am just wondering.

I gotta give it to ya...that is a very good question....that should be one for everyone.
I mean if you are with a MM and you were together for good...what if something happened...obviously he did it once, do you really think he would not do it again. I guess that is where I was different...I didn't ever think that OM and I were going to be together forever...I knew the same things he knew...we both cheated and we both knew that it could happen again! GREAT QUESTION! Red
What do you all think??? About the partner unable to have sex giving the other one permission to screw around??
Lucky
gurl
Edited 4/7/2004 11:24 am ET ET by gurlfriend50
Based on our histories, do you REALLY think that is such a hot idea, lol?? I think it is ok to have pressure, ups and downs, and still expect the person to be there for you -- if anything, it is during those times, that they SHOULD be there, you know?
Alameda
But when H and I talked about this some years ago (his dad pulled a train of mistresses H's whole life. H even had to socialize with most of them!), we talked about the difference of dealing with infidelity that was one night stand kind of stuff...purely sex, never seeing them again compared to infidelity of an emotional nature. We both thought then, and I still believe, that it's the emotional affair that's more trouble for a marriage because obviously that person's loyalties are divided. Where one night stands are concerned, it's just sex and as long as it's safe sex, I'd be cool with that. That's kinda what I was talking about.
I've never had one night stands, so maybe I can't understand it. However, I have had encounters that I thought were of the one night stand kind, but they have always developed into Rs!
Alameda