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Marriage and affair
| Mon, 08-11-2003 - 6:10pm |
Who has a successful marriage and affair, and what do you get from your affair that must be missing from your marriage? My number one complaint is communication and intimacy...My H wants sex, but is very easily satified, and doesn't really seem to have a clue of where I'm at...we've been married 11yrs, and I don't think I'd even realize how much our relationship was lacking, until I "fell" into this A full of communication and Amazing intimacy...Can anyone else relate?

yes... I can relate! I had an idea about what I missing... but I don't think I really knew until I met MM. I can talk to MM about almost anything... even the things that I sometimes used to get embarrased about with girlfriends... he is very understanding and I'm still amazed by him.
As for intimacy... DH and I used to have a great sex life... although it was just that... communication in that was another problem too... and yes... he was and still is very easily satisfied and will not usually go to great lengths... unlike MM, if you know what I mean.
I can't yet say I've a successful marriage... I'm still working on it. But I do continue to work on in and adjust accordingly and at the same time continue my EMA... both relationships take work and because of the EMA it causes the rollercoaster effect in both relationships... but mostly... with the two together... I'm happy and I feel that my EMA keeps my marriage together... I may have walked along ago.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
He's very much an unfeeling person. Doesn't
like to talk much about anything. So, add
communication to that list. Intimacy? It
lacks that too! And spending time together,
haha! That just never happens either!
~passion
My marriage is totally lacking intamcy, romance, companionship, romance, communication.. all that! And I got into this A because this man showed me so much attention and was really into me.. I mean really into me! We've now been seeing each other for 18 months, and a lot has changed in our EMA a lot that I don't like, but I'm still totally in love with him, and not in love with my H. I feel like he's (MM) is my addiction, and I can't get rid of him, like he's a drug and I have to have him, cuz in any other circumstance, in any other time of my life, I would not allow a man to treat me the way he has.
It's weird!!!!
My OM has been attracted to me for some time and showered me with affection until I caved in, afterall I never get any compliments or affection from h. We really don't even have much in common other than our children, while OM and I have many similar interests and thoughts.
This whole EMA really makes me realize what my M is lacking and I have to decide what I want to do and how I want to procede with my life and marriage. I often feel selfish for being with OM but like I said it's soooooo addicting and I'm so happy when I'm with him.
Thanks
thanks for the reply... I can so relate to you.
Does your OM want to be with you exclusively? I wish my MM wasn't married. My H and I are on the brink of D and it's only a matter of time before it happens. Even if things with MM and I didn't work out.. my expectations for the next man will be soo great, just because MM is such a awesome guy. I stay for the kids right now, and because I don't work, can't wait to be single again.
=)
What do I get from my A that I don't get from my marriage? Passion. Someone who finds me strong, smart and sexy...who makes me feel adored. Someone who is passionate himself, who TALKS to me and listens.
I can't honestly say that my husband does NOT find me all of those things above...I really think he does, but it's been so long since I've felt cherished by him that I'm not sure.
I do know that this A has made me take a hard look at my marriage and we are both working on making it better. It is hard to do while I'm still involved and in love with my OM, but I need to keep working on it because I do believe it is the right thing to do in the long run.
Anyway, I've been married for 19 years and have been having an affair for the last year. What's lacking in my marriage, well, much the same as the people who have posted here, no romance, intimacy, companionship and communication to name just a few. Sex is so routine with H and he is easily satisfied. My MM is oh so different and the sex is amazing, the best sex I've had for a long, long time. We see each other only maybe once a month, both having to be so carefull. We both intend staying with our partners, but get from each other what we no longer get from our partners. My MM makes me feel so good about myself and I have gained so much confidence from it all too. Even he says I've blossomed since the first time we met. H doesn't even seemed to have noticed this.......lol, makes me wonder just how much notice he really does takes of me......