Haley - your answer to "Big Mess!HELP"
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Haley - your answer to "Big Mess!HELP"
| Tue, 08-12-2003 - 11:29am |
This question is directed toward Haley...you say if you ended up PG you would raise the child with your DH and only you and MM would know...dont you worry about something popping up someday and it being discovered that the child is in fact not his? Im not saying it is likely but what if? In my case my husband and I and my OM all have blue eyes and OM and I are both blonde and although my DH has very dark brown hair, he was blonde as a child...it would be quite easy for me to pull that off but there's still a chance that somehow someway particularily in a medical situation it may come out that things dont jive and that the child doesnt belong to your DH - then after however many years of lying, how do you get past that on top of the fact that the kid doesnt belong to DH?
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| Tue, 08-12-2003 - 12:02pm |
Also, another thing to think about is that the child would never know the truth about his family medical background. What if there are genetic things that he needs to know about but because of your lie he will never be able to make choices about his health. This could affect many generations to come. A lot to think about. Is your not facing the truth worth those risks?
| Tue, 08-12-2003 - 12:13pm |
I have absolutely no clue what I would do if I found out I was PG...if I knew whose baby it was it would make it much easier but that wouldnt be likely without a paternity test. I would have have a paternity test and if necessary I'd have to to face up to it with DH...either way, I'd have to have the child and I would obviously play it off as DHs until I knew differently...what a friggin mess that would be! But I can honestly say, my DH would raise the child with me, learn to love him/her as his own and it would be a secret only him and I shared until it was necessary to share it with our child...but then again, who the heck knows how all this would really play out - lets not find out, ok!
| Tue, 08-12-2003 - 3:43pm |
I know, I thought about that - but I just know myself, I couldn't do it. I would definitely still stay in contact with MM. It was funny because we talk about our kids all the time. He has 4 kids, 15, 14,6 and 3. The first two aren't his. He said something about his wife and him having to go through genetic testing because there is some weird disease that popped up in her family and she may be carrier or he may be. (Turns she didn't and he didn't either) I'm definitely not trying to have a baby with him though so I'm just gonna do my best to avoid it alltogether. The thing that would make me feel most guilty is our child would never know his children - his/her brothers and probably not it's father either. That part is really sad. It's such a mess isn't?
