How to keep it alive??

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Registered: 07-03-2003
How to keep it alive??
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Thu, 08-14-2003 - 2:54am
I am wondering if any of you have had a similar probelm and can make suggestions. My MM and I currently work in the same dept. at work so we get to see each other every weekday. Unfortunately we can only manage to squeeze the intimate time in about once or twice a month. However, he just got a huge promotion and will be going to another dept. I am currently interviewing for a promotion that I am likely to get. The jobs will put us in different buildings. Also, he'll be extremely busy. My question is this. . . .how can I make sure we keep our EMA alive? We both have said we are not ready for it to end but I'm afraid the sepration will lead to that. We can't contact each other by home phone, cell phone or home e-mail and since work e-mail can be monitored we have to be careful. I don't want to lose him!! What can you suggest?? Thanks!!

TA

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-14-2003 - 5:42pm
Since you have eliminated all means of contact except by work phone, I suppose you will have to communicate via work numbers. It isn't clear why you can't communicate by cell or home numbers or home e-mails.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 08-14-2003 - 6:50pm
Hi TA,

You didn't really explain why you can't use email. I can certainly understand work email... too risky... I have MM's but we only use it in emergencies... and home email through our ISP isn't good either as I know mine is shared with DH and I presume that MM's is shared with his wife. But what's wrong with hotmail or yahoo??? MM and I both have a hotmail account and this is our main means of contact... we've had it from day one. It's passworded and he can access his from home and work... and since we only talk once a week it's a great form of contact for us... some days we get up to 4 emails each way... and it does make for a lot of fun and interesting convos some day.

Other than that... I'm sort of at a bit of a lose as to what to suggest... sorry...

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Sweet

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-16-2003 - 8:45am
You didn't say how big of a town/city you live in. Lunch breaks depending on how much time you have. Without knowing more info it's kind of hard, but here is a few thing that may work: Committee Meetings at night,Working late, I do this when I have to work on Sat. We are only open 10 to 2 but I always tell H that I'm going to work till 4, because it gives me 2 hours to be alone and work on projects without any interuptions. OM office is within walking distance of mine. He either comes over or I go to his. I tell everyone that I won't answer the phone, or the door.

What is your husbands work sch? Mine goes to work 2 1/2 hours before I do. That leaves time to stop by his work on my way to work for 1/2 hour or so. You can explain away 1/2 hour easy, I ran to the drug store for tampons (don't forget to go buy them if you use that excuse) Cover your tracks.

During the day I can always go to the bank, to do deposit for work, there again 1/2 hour easy cover from boss, co workers and Hubby.

Pick your times that are longer, I don't know what kind of work you do, but over night meetings, sign up for classes that require you to trave to another town. Lots of time your company will pay for these classes. I don't take classes I don't need/want, but once in a while there will be a class on something I can really benfit from. You kind of alway have to be looking for that opportunity.

OM & I see each other alot - now that doesn't allways meen alone time. We e-mail everyday, he calles me at work, just about everyday, IM. There is a lot of places you can get a e-mail account that can't be opened by anyone else.

Hope this helped a little

EJ