Update to my post from 2 wks ago, lost
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Update to my post from 2 wks ago, lost
| Thu, 08-14-2003 - 10:02am |
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Edited 6/3/2004 9:25 am ET ET by boston53
Edited 6/3/2004 9:25 am ET ET by boston53

I read your post last time but didn't respond as I thought the ladies here were giving you good advice in telling you to move on. It sounds a bit different now. I think you did the right thing in letting her know how you feel. It sounds as if she still has feelings for you. Can she get in touch with you? Does she have your number, email, etc? If so, I would give it some time and let her think about it all more. If she is feeling for you what you feel for her, I think she will get in touch with you. If not, maybe extend a last branch - let her know how to reach you and that if she ever wanted to discuss it further, you will be there. But other than that, I really don't think there is much you can do.
Also, if you are willing to have an afair with this woman - please think it through. You are obviously very deeply in love with this woman, and I think everyone here can attest to how difficult dealing with all the emotions can be. It might be too much for you given how you feel about her. Can you truly deal with maybe loving her more than she loves you? (If that were the case)?
I feel for you, and I wish you luck! Let us know what happens.
I'm sorry that you are still experiencing so much grief...well, you are asking how to initiate as EMA more or less...hmmm. You have told her how you feel, and she was clearly moved by it. But she told you that the timing is off. She is newly married, probably happily married at that...
I think you have 4 options:
1. you can reapproach her (she's newly married and may not be interested in an A)
2. you can wait for her to come back to you (she has told you she doesn't want contact)
3. yes, as hard as it may be, you can move on (it will be hard, but you can do it)
4. you can do nothing and keep torturing yourself with these thoughts...
No one will tell you what to do, but it sounds like you have chosen option #4...the others might be scary, but in my mind, they are a hell of a lot better than 4.
You have little contact with her, and as a result, it sounds like you are obsessing about her. She is perfect in your eyes, and as long as you have her in your head, she can do know wrong. Everything that plays out between the two of you will seem important, meaningful. Do you find yourself fantasizing about scenarios with her (not just sexual here)? Try to keep perspective, and look at the circumstances for what they are. Try not to read too much into EVERY little glance, smile, etc.
Good luck, boston, and keep us posted!!
Alameda
(By the way, I'm a sucker for green eyes, too! Maybe if you catch her on a sunny day with sunglasses, she won't be such a heartbreaker...LOL!)