How can a post......

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How can a post......
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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 4:56pm
have 106 views, and not one response. I try to read each post, but my time is really limited now. It's really a horrible to be scared of something that is about to take place and not one person respond.

It's like calling the suicide hotline, and being put on hold. I know everybody is not going to feel the way I feel. I know a lot of my post sound wishy washy. But, I have been in the EMA off and on, mostly on for 16 years. And, I have experienced the ups and the downs. I know a lot of people just don't understand, my R and that's OK.

I have never in my life been this confused. I don't have anyone else to share my thoughts with, but the people here.

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 5:33pm
I'm sorry you haven't received any feedback. With your post I really don't know what to say. I don't know your situation, why don't you explain it more. You stated a lot of the negative and nothing really positive. I can't tell really what you want... it sounds like you know that when he gets that apartment that things are going to turn for the worse. Are you just wanting getting help through the playboy issues?? I have much more time to talk through email. If you would like to email me, you are more than welcome. michelechic24@yahoo.com.

Hugs...

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Registered: 09-04-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 12:59am
Sorry you didn't get a response, sometimes I think there is so much going on here that sometimes people just try and read as much as they can and they don't always get to write back. Anyhow, are you also m? If not what is it about this one man that keeps you around even though he's proven time and time again, that his w is always going to be ahead of you. And infact that you are not the only one he turns to when he isn't getting what he wants. I don't know exactly what you are looking for. Do you want him to just be with you? If so, why are you letting him get away with screwing around with other girls besides his w? Maybe I sound like a nut, but if mm left his w and then started screwing around with owomen and then went back to w, that would be it! No way in hell! Bull, not going there. I would think that what we had must not have been special, that it didn't happen because we were meant to be together, but that he was just some horny jerk who can't keep his pants on. I'm sorry, I hope I didn't offend you. I feel for you. You need to decide what you want from him and tell him. And if it isn't possible for him to meet your needs, then you need to decide if what he does provide is enough for you. Goodluck, let me know what's up. Hope I wasn't too harsh. Just don't want you to get walked all over. Hugs, Jdreamer96
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Thu, 09-25-2003 - 10:20am
sorry about that secret, but i was too busy to reply to you yesterday. but i'm going to now, but you will not like it.

let him go. he has proven to you and apparently to many other women that he is not trustworthy or faithful. maybe it's redundant to say, but please let him go. your OM does not respect you and certainly isn't leaving his M for you. you cannot control anything but yourself. sounds to me like he wants to play around. do you want those leftovers??

please get off the rollercoaster with OM. make YOURSELF happy!

jmho,

gurl

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 11:45am
You are right, I need to just let him go. But there is a part of me that wants to think he will change. I have a fear, that he will leave his W, and suddenly become the perfect man. And, there I will be, having burnt my bridge, and he won't take me back. I know that sounds crazy. I know it's not very likely that he will change, but that is a fear I have.

I've given much thought to the idea of just letting this whole EMA go up in flames, but I always end up backing out. I guess I want to give it one last try, to see if things will be different this time. Deep inside I don't think they will.

But, thanks very much for responding:)

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 12:05pm
Off the topic, secretluver, how do you figure out that your posts had so many views?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 12:12pm
sweetie, i may be jaded insofar as men are concerned, but i truly believe that no one changes, only modify their behavior for the situation. you've seen OM's true colors, more than once it seems. have no fear that he will become "the perfect man" -- that's an oxymoron. there are no perfect men or women.

i know it's hard to let go of the dream, but sometimes you have to cut your losses and just stop. it's the only way to stem the bleeding from your heart! women are such caretakers and fixers -- you want to give it "one more try to see if it will be different." do you really think OM will treat you any differently? i wish i could be more positive, but i just see you getting hurt feelings and disrepect down the road if you stay attached to OM. maybe i'll be wrong. i would hope so for your sake.

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 1:56pm
You select the outline view, and it will tell how many views your post has:)