Want out of the marriage

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2003
Want out of the marriage
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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 11:42pm
I have been married to my husband for 5 years, together for 7. I have known him for the past 25 years. He adopted my children ages 10 and 11. He has been very hard to get along with for most of the marriage. I always came last, and my happiness never mattered to him as long as he was happy. I started having an affair with my boss 1 1/2 years ago. I am very much in love with him, and he is with me. My husband knows this but refuses to let me go. He has a place of his own and just refuses to stop making my life unhappy. He uses the kids to his advantage. He is always trying to make them feel bad and let them know that it is mommy that is the bad one. He knows I don't love him, but that doesn't matter. What should I do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 8:35am
It's simple....D-I-V-O-R-C-E!! It sounds like your husband is probably not going to be willing to agree to the divorce and make it easrier for you and the children, but no matter how messy it may get, once you have court orders entered regarding your children, he'll think twice about using them as pawns for fear of contempt charges being brought against him.