Pregnant.....what now

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2003
Pregnant.....what now
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Tue, 09-30-2003 - 6:26pm
I don't know where to start but I have had an affiar on my husband of 2 years. I did not feel welocome there and as a result of drinking and partying i had an affair, now i am pregnant. what advice can you give me. He wants me back with the help of counseling and an abortion. But that is a big decision. HELP!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 12:20am
what is your relationship with the father? do you love your H? I would do what it takes to make it work if that is what you want....the main thing is do you think you can move on after letting a tiny life go? I thought I was p with my MM baby, and my H doesnt know, but I am 99 sure that my H is the father. But I know that I could not have let the baby go either way....I would not have been able to deal with it...
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 5:56am
It's a hard decision to make. MM and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. Before H and I married, I was involved with MM. In 1999, I got pregnant with my DD, and wasn't sure who the father was. I know now, that DD is H's. When I told H, at first he didn't want me to have the baby, but the ultimate decision was mine. I decided to keep her, and I'm glad I didn't cave. I still married H. Although I was under a lot of pressure to do so, I still love MM more each day. I hope you can make a good decision for yourself. I'm so sorry that you are in this situation, and I hope you can make heads or tails of it. Good Luck!