Am I on the right board?

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Am I on the right board?
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Wed, 10-01-2003 - 7:20pm
I am new here and I don't know if this is the board for me. Maybe a brief background and someone can help me decide if I should stay.

I'm married to DH w/3 kids. I have been secretly in love with my married boss for around 4 years. I've worked for him for 11 years. Well today I told him how I felt. (I can go into further details if I stay) He was taken back but said he doesn't put himself into those situations or think about it because of his values. I know for a fact that he has had at least one affair before, but he doesn't know I know. So was that a kind rejection or should I pursue it? Who knows.

I feel that I need someone to talk to that won't judge what I am considering doing. I don't know if I could even get him to move forward. Can anyone help? Has anyone been in this situation before?

Thanks for listening and any advice!

Sabrina

P.S. I don't want to end my marriage and I know my boss doesn't want to end his. Is there anyway that a relationship can happen and succeed with both people married?


Edited 10/1/2003 9:38:38 PM ET by briewilde

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 7:37pm

Hi Sabrina and welcome,


I'd have to say that... yes... you're probably on the best board for your situation... basically we are here for anyone in or considering an EMA.


I can't give you much in regards to you moving forward with a relationship with this man... only you can fully decide if you want to 'push' things further with him.

Sweet
Co-Community Leader My

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 8:36pm
He said he was not interested. Which word didn't you understand?

Just because he had one affair does not mean he ever wants to have one ever again.

Just because you HEARD he had an affair, does not even make it TRUE!!

He told you he does "not put himself into those situations". END OF STORY.

This is your boss. Are you trying to get fired? How stupid do you want to make yourself out to be??!!!

GET YOUR HEAD ON STRAIGHT.