WHO SAYS NEVER?????

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Registered: 10-01-2003
WHO SAYS NEVER?????
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Wed, 10-01-2003 - 9:53pm
Never is not possible....No one, no one knows what tomorrow brings...Will bring, could bring.....Decisions have to be made based on TODAY! Anything is possible, anything. Think back in your life to any certain point, high or low, now think back about a year before, would you ever believe such a thing could have happened??????????????Married 16 years, 5 children, Divorce never even a thought!!!!!!!!! Marriage is forever especially for me. Here i am YES Divorced, (ON MY PART) for the past 4 years raising my children single!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH god, who would have thought....So i no longer use the word NEVER, and always, always, always, admit,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,anything is possible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!If you give all of yourself in everything you do,,,,you can achieve(SKY IS THE LIMIT)...and yes i do believe any life situation applies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Just a thought...one i now live by.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:36pm

Hey forever... I agree with you... anything is possible... I even like to think that the impossible may be possible... but why set yourself up for what could be a disappointment???


I have learned to no longer live for the future... but for the moment... and what life brings right now.

Sweet
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:26am
My MM says to me all the time "never say never" We have never really talked about a future together but we take each day at a time and enjoy what we have. I am a MW with a MM who is my boss. By the way this is my very first post and I have been reading this board for 2 years now and I think it is time for me to start giving back to everyone here. I applaud you for having the strength to do what you did. WOW, that is a lot and I wish you the best.


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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:48am
Yeah, anything is possible, but its best to not have unrealistic expectations in an EMA. Since you said anything is possible, it is possible that your lover may not be leave his marriage (not for you) just like it is possible that he may leave. Who said EMA was all romance and fun its a lot of emotional rollercoaster that take a toll on you. Look at me, I when into my "A" to see if what I had with this other person was really more than a connection that I felt but it all bombed on my face. I was called insane, stalker and mad person for it. When some people say never maybe they have been somewhere where you haven't been before. Learn to see other people's perpective before you jump into conclusions. Its better to be honest and realsitic then to be given false hopes and lies.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 10:38am
hey foreverlover -- i totally agree -- NEVER say NEVER!

had 2 children -- boy and girl -- and believing we were finished our family, H had a vasectomy. and we said, NEVER again! well, three years later, surprise, surprise -- i was pregnant again. difficult pregnancy, early delivery, but she was healthy. i told my doctor to do a tubal ligation after delivery and make sure he cut, burned and put the tubes back in the opposite directions. and it worked -- 16 years without any more babies!

too funny.

and again, you are sooo right -- we never can know what will happen in the future. but be careful what you wish for, as the saying goes.

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:46am
Sparkles,

I'm in a situation similar to yours, I'm a MW and my MM is also my boss. How did your EMA start? I'm just curious.

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 2:53pm
Well here goes.... It may be long...My first time after 2 years of lurking I am writing my story and the thing is I am at work as I type this because I never come here at home...we have worked together for 9 years and I felt an instant attraction but never acted on it. About 4 years ago we got a little carried away after an office happy hour.. just kissing but we kissed for a very long time, and then again 2 weeks later then nothing for 6 months. We had to go to a yearly conference out of town for 3 days and we ended up spending almost all free time together we did just about everything but IC. He told me he felt guilty. When we got back home it was another few months before we were together again. We were both trying to hide our feelings for each other because we both knew it was wrong. It was so hard not being able to tell him how I felt. I really thought he was just using me because he ignored me at work except for work related things. We would have one of our sessions about every 3 or 4 months and there were 2 more conferences out of town and again no IC but everything else. He then became my boss around this time and we started to spend more and more time together at work flirting and talking. Last summer he started asking me to lunch and we would do happy hours alone and go back to the office after everyone was gone. Within the last few months things have gotten more serious. I will post more next week as I have to get back to work. I would love to here your story too.
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Tue, 10-21-2003 - 11:48am
so if we 'never say never' then tell me is it possible that the MM I was involved with will speak to me again and let me apologize (I told his wife) for all I've done? That's all I want from him...is a minute to apologize but he won't speak to me but its only been 2 and a half weeks? Give me some hope that one day I can apologize to him. Thx