I felt "cheap" after being with mm last
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I felt "cheap" after being with mm last
| Thu, 10-02-2003 - 10:28am |
Our realtionship has been going on for over 3 months. We've only been "together" 3 times (including last night). We talk every day sometimes twice. And we see each other because of our children almost every day. For some reason after last nights little romp I just felt like I was stooping to a lower level. I'm not sure if I can explain it. It wasn't guilt for my husband but a little guilt that "I" deserve better. Anyone ever feel like this?

The last time this happened was many years ago, with an MM I was involved with while single. He talked really dirty, which shocked me because he had always seemed so respectful to me, and the whole thing made me feel like an object of *his* desire, rather than a person. Is that how you felt?
as for the other part of your post about having dinner or seeing a movie, realistically you cannot expect to do "normal" relationship activities -- not in an A/EMA. but you can do those kinds of things separately and have a nice little thought about the other and then share that experience the next time you talk. that's what MM and i do. we describe our day (or the weekend) and if he's out somewhere and thinks about me, he calls my cell and leaves me a message about what he's doing, with me next to him, and i do the same. that way, we share all our experiences together. works for us!
take care,
gurl
We have accepted that there is no normal "dating" here. We can have a beer on the way home from work or breakfast on the way into work, but I draw the line at dinner, which he has suggested - I have a family that wants me for dinner, and not only do I owe them that, I want to be with them, too. So, yeah, it ends up being little slices of time here and there, and they all tend to be one thing or another, but not the "full" experience you get when you are dating someone.