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Question-Do you feel uncomfortable when-
| Thu, 10-02-2003 - 12:47pm |
Do anyone here feel uncomfortable when you think of your MM/OM sleeping with his W or GF? Esspecially right after he's been with you, held you, and made promises? When you think about him going home, and holding her/pleasing her/promising things to her, to make her unsuspicious, what do you tell yourselves?
Right now it's just me and him, but she will be here soon, and she is needy and clingy, and at this moment, knowing it's just me is fine, but what are the emotions like knowing he's with HER, when he's not with you????
I think my life is about to crumble.

i'm of the school of thought that what my MM and his W have together is entirely separate from what he and i have together and i am not jealous of the time they spend together living their life together. i have a great life apart from MM with my long-term BF and my grown children and lots of friends and huge social life so i'm not sitting around wondering what's going on at MM's house. apart from all that, i'm not a possessive or jealous person and as far as i can remember, never wanted to put myself in his W's place. the A started for sex but after a few years moved into deeper emotional territory. i'm realistic enough to know that MM and i will probably only go so far. he and i are amazed our R has developed to this point as it has! we try to enjoy every day we have together but agree that if either of us becomes overwhelmed with the emotional aspect of the A, it is over. so far, we have just grown closer.
maybe if i was single and not living with someone else, i would be sitting around waiting and wondering about "their" life. i never have waited for anyone (men or boys!) ever and have had and will always have a full life with or without a man in it.
i just think it's a waste of precious time to "feel uncomfortable" about his home life, and to live your life wanting something you have no control over getting. you only have control over your own life, not his.
just my opinion though. take care,
gurl
*hugs*
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