Please give me strength....
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Please give me strength....
| Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:18pm |
My H just called me at work and says he wants to talk tonight. I've already told him somehow over the past 5 years I have fallen out of love with him. I truely believed that he didn't love me either. We had no relationship, no sex, no communication. We don't even fight because we just don't involve ourselves in eachother's lives. We don't have the same friends, we don't mingle money. I don't even know where he banks at. Anyways after I told him I was leaving he stated this whole "I LOVE YOU"...... Now I'm feeling guilty about leaving. It was so much easier when he just didn't talk to me at all. I don't know if I have it in my heart to hurt him. I don't thnk I love him but I hate the thought of leaving a basically good man. He doesn't beat me, he doesn't abuse drugs. I just don't feel that I love him. I know it's a horrible thing to say but deep down inside I've always felt this huge guilt because I think if anything ever happened to H that I wouldn't be this grieving widow. I know that sounds SO bad but I am just not in love anymore. He's a good person but he's not loving. Maybe I think he should adore me and fall at my feet. maybe I think he should look at me like he thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. Please help.

if you dont love him then let him go...he deserves to be with someone that makes him happy. i was in a situation similar to that - i did not love my ex i was with him for my son he was raising not even his son. i tried he was a great guy - just not loving. i had a problem with that. i tried to communicate that several times various ways he tried and then went back to being his cold self. i could not handle it. i had to leave it was not fair for me and not fair for him. he is much older then me maybe i dont know that could be it. i did not expect him to be all over me but some affection would have been nice. anyhow it never happened after 6 years i finally got out of the relationship. it was the best decision i could have made...it was not easy but i did it.
i wish you the best. if you dont love him dont be with him is my suggestion give him the opportunity to find someone who will accept him the way he is. you want more and deserve more dont settle.
i wish you the best - sandy
So, hang on to your wants. Give yourself permission not to be in love, it's OK. You don't have to justify it to anyone.
Good luck
Secret