Too Busy for My Birthday
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| Fri, 10-03-2003 - 5:57pm |
This year, I asked if we could take a couple hours, go for a nice ride, or maybe go for ice cream like we did last year? He replies back, I can't I have too much going on.That was it. No suggestion for an alternative. Nothing. He hurt me badly because he knows how much I enjoy birthday's. And there isn't anything in the world I wouldn't do for him.I'm stuck though because I don't know if I should tell him he hurt my feelings. Or wait till the day of my birthday and see if he surprises me with something? Or just say nothing and act like what he did didn't matter.
I also feel like going into NC, but then I know he's going to say, "What's Wrong, you're not acting yourself?" Are men so blind sometimes that they can't see how little things hurt us?
Any suggestions?
Edited 10/3/2003 6:00:21 PM ET by nyblonde58

Jdreamer96
My OM was on vacation when I had a birthday during our first year, and I got *no* call from him. I was SO hurt, and when he came back from vacation, I let him know it. Lucky for me, while he was on that vacation, he realized just how miserable he was without me, and it was a turning point in our relationship. Plus, he has never let a holiday or birthday go by since without making something of it.
Maybe he'll figure it out when he's gone that he hurt my feelings, but I doubt it. Perhaps if I don't contact him in any way while he's away, unlike what I normally would do with notes and pages, maybe he'll get the hint. If not, perhaps this is the perfect time to begin NC and say FU.
and don't you have your answer about whether MM cares about you?! of course he knows your b-day is an important occasion, but he just ignored it and you, couldn't find 5 minutes to see you, and on top of that is leaving for a vacation he, what, neglected to mention. please girl. he is sooo pulling away from your R and you are trying to hang on by your fingernails.
let this R go..... i know it hurts and will likely require more effort to end it, but really, this man is totally neglecting you and hurting your feelings too -- all this after two years together. he knows he's hurt your feelings and he will NOT realize anything on vacation, except his own selfish pleasures.
No contact and F*** him! i hope i haven't upset you more, and sorry to be so blunt, but i just can't "be supportive" of your R with this jerk.
jeez, sorry about this post -- i just really feel strongly that he doesn't even care about you. you deserve to be treated better than this.
take care,
gurl
Maybe, you should be blunt with your mm? Good luck.
Happy birthday to you. Take the trip to NC. Have fun.
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I hope you had some friends and family to celebrate with. We all deserve love and respect, just because we are human beings and God's creation, and while it may not help you in the romantic department, know that you are loved by many people just for being yourself.