Confrontation with OW -ever been caught?
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| Sat, 10-04-2003 - 8:48am |
I was just wondering if any of you have been in a situation where you have been caught by the other woman while with her guy, and if you have what happened?
In my situation, my being caught (about 6 months ago) is what made her aware of her boyfriend cheating on her. According to him, their relationship was over but they were still living together. Him and I had been dating for about three weeks and seeing each other almost every day and he even told me that he mentioned me to his girlfriend.
Anyway, she was supposed to be out of town for four days on a business trip, so he invited me over to their place for the first time. It was the second day into their trip, when (as I found out later), certain events were cancelled and she came back. Now here was the situation she came back to.
He was out at the store buying cigarettes and I happened to be sitting on the couch wearing only underwear and pantyhose and a bra, so when she walked in and saw me there was no doubt in her mind as to the nature of the relationship between me and her boyfriend.
What happened next happened very fast. She got up in my face asking me what I was doing there, and grabbed me by the hair. I slapped her hard in the face and then we started pulling each other around the room by each other's hair, slapping each other in the face. Since I am bigger than her I managed to get her down, sit on her stomach with my knees on her shoulders and try and get her to calm down. She wouldn't stop screaming calling me names so I slapped her in the face a couple of times and she lay still while I sat on her and I told her that he had told me they were no longer dating and just living together, etc.
Basically, her and I had our first face to face with me sitting on her staring down at her beet red face, so she does not have the best impression of me. I wanted him to confirm things so I continued sitting on her for next 10 - 15 minutes until he came home, very surprised to find a relaxed me sitting on his crying girlfriend. He confirmed to her that I didn't know their relationship was still on, and I got off of her.
They still live together, and now 6 months later, I see less of him outside of work (we work in the same building), but he still promises that soon he will break up with her and find a place with me, which I doubt, but he is still the best guy I know right now, and the sex is great, so I guess I wait around.
Anyone else have a similar situation occur to them?
Colleen

Not that I have been in the same situation out of curiousity I couldn't help wonder if you were married or not. Because if not, do what is best for you and perhaps find someone who may be single instead of putting yourself through being the OW.
Sweettendencies
And for my situation with OM/MM's W , well she kept giving him @#! all the time about me and him talking (she was aware of that) and she kept saying she wanted to talk to me etc. So I finally convinced him to let her call me. She did and we had our say to one another. She told me not to call him anymore etc. I told her that he has been a part of my life sense I was 13 and he is a important part that I am not willing to live without. She said she understood that. (WHAT?) haha. ANyway, I told her that I would respect her and not call her home anymore but that I would not say we wouldn't be talking. She said ok, basically. But that is all that happened really. She knows he still calls me and I call him at work....and I am sure she is aware that we are slepting together.....how could she not be?
~wishing~