Just want to know

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Just want to know
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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 5:12pm
How many of you are in an A and have said "I love you" to each other, or one has said it and the other one has not, or you just don't say it at all. Just wondering I'm new at the A thing.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 5:16pm
We've both said it, but a long time ago before the A started. We said it as friends. Since the A, I don't think so.

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 5:31pm
We started out as friends (10 plus years) so we both said love you, but that took a turn 8 months ago when he told me he was in love with me, four months later we started the A.
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Registered: 02-12-2002
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 5:34pm
We said "I love you" after about six months. I said it when I knew I felt that way, when I knew he felt that way, and when I didn't care whether I heard it back (though he did say it, and has been saying it ever since, several times a day).
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 5:38pm
my mm told me for first time in oct 1991 he rang up me up told me he love me for first time l didn't know to say so suprise but he know now how really love him and always will, he keeps saying to me you know l love you baby. then oct of 2001 we were in cancun mexico on holiday together never forget this one morning over breakfast he told me he love me again.girls l could real love he has in eyes for me, kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 08-14-2003
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 5:54pm
This is quite a timely post for me! MM and I have been telling each other that we love each other, are crazy about each other, etc. for some time now. Last week, he asked me to stop saying it to him. His rationale is that he needs time to think about how emotionally attached he will allow himself to be with me while he's still married, and hearing me say those words to him muddies the waters. I respect and understand that, so I haven't said it to him since. He, on the other hand, has not stopped saying it to *me*, which is also fine with me ;-) Also, we don't say it constantly like my H and I do -- I've told MM that I don't like the predictability and vanilla nature of saying it all the time, so he doesn't end every conversation that way or even say it on a daily basis. Which works for me, because for me, actions speak much louder than words!

 

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