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So angry!!!!
| Tue, 10-07-2003 - 11:56pm |
ugh ladies i am so mad at my mm, the last time i talk to my MM, he said he would email me or something to let me know that things were ok for him and here it has been a week and i havent heard anything from him, no instant message, no email and no phone call. Why is it that men seem to not think it's important to communicate, well i dont know about all MM's but mine doesnt seem to care. Sometimes i just think i should end it with MM b/c he just doesnt seem to be committed to our ema. MM makes me want to scream, i tried not contacting him but it's so hard not to. I love mm but im starting to feel like he doesnt feel the same. I need some advice from you ladies, have yall experience this waiting game like checking your email several times a day to see if he has left something or stayed close by the phone hoping he would call just to get your hopes up and then be let down. hopefully i will hear from some of yall that i am not the only one going thru this right now in my ema. talk to ya later

I go throught it all the time (and I know of a few other board members who do too). I think it is usually one or a combination of a few things; men just don't feel the need to communicate as much, they simply get busy, or maybe they are feeling a little guilt and/or confusion and need time to sort things out.
Try not to let it get you down. Nine times out of ten it's nothing. It still makes me a bit nuts at times; I worry if something is wrong when I don't hear from him (and yes, sometimes I do get a bit obsessive about checking my emails).
Unfortunately, it's just part of being in an A. I think it's very common. It's not easy! But know you're not alone.
Of course he's not committed! That's why men have EMAs - because, by their very nature there can be no commitment.
Dusty
Sorry toots. These are the kind of men who many of the ladies on this board get involved with!
MM's do have totally separate lives away from you and that's part of the package - learning to be a part of an entirely different aspect of his LIFE. And I guess those of us here who are married are more understanding of our MMs in that regard because we also have our own families that we put ahead of our MMs. EMAs are just like extra-curricular activities, they have a benefit, but they are just extra.
That's just MHO.
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Obviously there are times when he really can't call but most of the time he could call if he were to MAKE the effort to call...of course that would require some thought and planning and creativity and just be way too difficult! LOL
I talk to my OM several times a week and see him once every week or two. Seeing him more really wouldnt be easy for either of us. However, he could call more than he does some weeks.
I did see him last night and I asked him several questions. I asked him why he had called me less than a handful of times over the past 2 weeks and I suggested that he was backing away from me...he reassured me that he called me every chance he got except those chances are just more rare some weeks than others.
They are all men and the concept of "outta sight, outta mind" was created on account of men...Just remember outta sight and outta mind doesn't necessary mean outta HEART! Have faith ladies!
Liberal
Dusty
i see many women on this board who decend into despair because they are not "first" or #1 with the MM/OM. that's the nature of the EMA/A. live with that fact or get out of the R.
my MM is going on vacation next week and i'm actually excited for him to get away and relax. he deserves it, believe me. do i wish i was going with him? no, because i have a life away from him and no illusions about having more with him than we have right now.
that's my opinion.
gurl
Love 4ever.