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| Thu, 10-09-2003 - 2:34pm |
I need some thoughts from some people that don't know me. I am engaged, and my fiance has been gone for a year (he is in the military). Just recentlly I started having an affair. My Fiance is younger tham me and the OM is older. I love my fiance and his family. But Its been so long since I have known what it is like to have a man in my life (that is physically in the same place as me). When I started the A I just thought it would be a hook up. But it has turned into a 'relationship'. I have feelings for the OM and he has feelings for me. He is the total opposite of my Fiance. He is much more like me than my fiance and more my intellectual equal. Being with him has made me doubt my future with my fiance. We have decided to continue seeing each other until my fiance somes home, and then for me to figure out how I feel about my fiance and make a decision then. I feel so guilty about everything, and I don't want to hurt anyone, but I can't stop seeing the OM. I truly enjoy being with him. I don't even remember what it is like to be with my fiance. Has anyone been in this situation? Am I totally crazy?
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| Fri, 10-10-2003 - 10:04am |
Hi grl--- Keep in mind that you're fiance has been gone for a year now. You NEED attention and affection. It feels good to finally have someone show you that. But don't make any rash decisions yet. Give yourself and your fiance the chance to see if that is really want you want and that you're not just getting wrapped up the moment right now. If when your fiance comes home and your feelings for the OM do not go away, then re-consider what your doing (if it's what you really want). I hope everything works out for you. You'll be fine. Everything will pan out when your fiance comes home. Right now it's hard to make this kind of decision or think about that kind of decision when there's only one man here occupying all of your time. Good luck!!
