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| Fri, 10-10-2003 - 9:56am |
I haven't seen MM 4 weeks today. For my surprise, he called me first thing this morning, and said that we wanted to see me next wednesday. We have been going through a lot of planning than cancelling, and that has made me very upset, and he's aware of it, all because he's extremelly busy at work something always seem to come up on the day we were to meet, and plans get cancelled. He sounded very sweet on the phone, and said for sure no cancelling we would meet, that he would make it happen,etc...He was so relaxed not like usually when he calls all agitaded,because of work and alot of stress. What happen after is what i don't understand, 15 minutes after the first call, he calls again but this time all agitaded, saying that he's not sure anymore about Wednesday, cause he just remembered that he might have to go to the bank and negotiate his house morgage. I told him that he sounded like a different person, that i was confused...
I don't know what to say to him anymore, i told him that i'm tired of getting hurt, he said that we would call me later. I'm not sure what do with this man anymore. I'm clueless. What do you all think?
I don't know what to say to him anymore, i told him that i'm tired of getting hurt, he said that we would call me later. I'm not sure what do with this man anymore. I'm clueless. What do you all think?

D U M P - H I M ! ! !
Sounds to me that he's jerking you around. That's what jerks do girl. You don't need that frustration.
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you should seriously consider breaking it off with him. as far as i can see, you are getting no benefit from him and the A, so.... but you have to decide, don't you?
good luck,
gurl
Dusty
But, if you are a priority to him he will find time for you somewhere in that busy schedule. Gurl is right -- he may be vascillating back and forth between desire and guilt. Or he may be trying to break it off nicely, without actually telling you he wants to end it. I think that if you were suddenly busy with your own life also instead of waiting for him, and he knew that, he would have some motivation to stop treating you this way. Either that or else the relationship is just over, and if that is the case, you will be glad later that you walked away with your dignity intact, by letting him know that you have a life outside of him too and are not at his beck and call in terms of getting together.
Wish you the best.
it's hard for me to understand your situations since my MM is ALWAYS in contact, by telephone (2x a day) and in person (at least 2x/week). when he doesn't call, i know he is busy and will call when he can. and he always does!
MM left this morning on vacation for a week and i didn't hear from him last evening to say goodbye, so i left him a message this morning on his cellphone. and he did call, from the airport, before boarding the plane. it was only for 5 minutes, but he knows i want to hear from him and i know he wants to talk to me, so he's sooooo good about staying in touch.
luiz -- i know you've in love with him, but from your post it sounds like he's having second and third thoughts and is withdrawing from you.
again, we're here for you no matter what happens,
gurl
I'm glad that you're here with me, that i'm not in this kind of situation alone...
And Luiz, I hope things work out for you. It does sound like our situations are very similar, my MM bought a big company a year ago and is really busy with it, I think there are problems there too. But when I talk to him, its like no time has passed, he still says he wants to get together. So I try to remember that, and think that if/when we DO get together again, it will be great!! And SO worth the wait.