Have I lost his friendship?
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Have I lost his friendship?
| Fri, 10-10-2003 - 4:55pm |
I am married with children and have a male friend who also is married with kids. In fact, we met through an activity our children share. Over time, we have developed a connection, and I have increasingly deep feelings for him. Right or wrong, I have reason to believe that the attraction is mutual, although he's the kind of guy you'd suspect would never cheat on his wife. Ironically, the fact that's such a great guy is part of the attraction. Absolutely nothing has happened between us. I made a bold move and expressed to him in a note that I think he is very attractive and fun to be with and that he sometimes makes me wish we weren't married to other people. Since that time, the only words he has said to me are polite "hellos" and "goodbyes." It is very, very obvious that he is making every effort to stay away from me so that I do not try to bring up a conversation. I feel so bad that I overstepped and have lost his friendship. I would much rather have him say, "Look, this has made me very uncomfortable. I am not interested. Let's keep our distance." Instead, he has grown silent and distant. I am just sick over this. Any advice or insight, particularly from guys?

interested in more than a superficial relationship. He is backing off from your note -- keeping it at just hello and goodbye -- just to set a boundary. But in time, once he sees that you are still friendly, he may open up more.
Hang in there *hugs*
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