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what does that mean?
| Sat, 10-11-2003 - 12:34am |
The other day me and my MM were talking on the phone, and we were just having a general conversation that turned into talking about our relationship and i made the comment to him that i was tired of sharing with the wife and he said " i know" and that he was tired of sharing me with my husband. Granted, MM has never told me he loves me, why u asked, well i believe he is scared that im going to hurt him like his wife has done in the marriage, but i have said it to him. Anyways, i told him that one day we were going to have to make choices about our relationship and he agreed, he said he is trying to figure out how it will work with us, so he went out of town to think about everything, and honestly he is now opening up to me more and more. He said he does trust me that im not sleeping with husband, if he really knew i was just to keep my husband from being curious, i think MM would be angry at me and that would probably be the end for us, i hate that im lieing to MM but i am not having sex with husband b/c i want to, it's more of covering up so he doesnt suspect anything, should i just come clean and tell him, or just let MM think that i am not being intimate with husband. I always get good advice from you ladies and i need some again, thanks for your time.

I know that sounds really bad, but I was trying to make a point.
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I have always known my OM is intimate with his fiance but I just prefer not to think about it, AT ALL...I recently found out she was pregnant and to me, that was like hitting a brick wall because reality hit me that he in fact has sex with someone other than me...but realistically it wouldnt and shouldnt be any other way...
It is very true that holding out is a HUGE red flag. I know that i worry cuz my mm doesn't really go to his w for s, she comes to him and half the time he isn't in the mood. So its few and far between...but through conversation....they still have a decent sex life and it would be naive of me to think any different. In fact, I am certain it is way more frequently than i am led to believe. Honestly.
I just don't see where he has the right to ask you not to have s with your h. Do you feel you are entitled to ask him not to have s with the w? I think you really need to talk to him about this. As much as it may suck to have this scenerio....it is one that all parties need to be honest about.
Good luck.
I think something may be wrong w/your MM. You are MARRIED, you are expected to have sex w/DH!!
You've been together for 9 months and he hasn't told you that he loves you, BUT he expects you NOT to have sex w/your own DH. What's wrong w/this picture?
My A started in July, we haven't had sex yet, and MM has told me that he loves me. Just yesterday he told me that he was wrapped around my little finger and that I occupied a huge part of his heart.
I use my A as an example because I think your MM is being unfairly selfish with you. Re-evaluate your situation and your relationship.
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