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| Wed, 10-15-2003 - 6:14pm |
i am new to the whole message board thing, but this is not something i can discuss with anyone i personally know so i thought i would try here.
i have been in love with a man for 13 years. i dated him for 2 and half years. his dad really didnt care too much for me and thinking beings they had a close realtionship he would be better off with out me i broke it off with him. This was my first mistake, heartbroken i turned to the first man who happened to be there. This was his best friend we dated for less than 3 months when i ended up pregnant and i married him.
Now 3 kids and 11 years later i have moved to where i now have a close realtionship with the first man again.
wow this is getting to be a long story....lol. The husband has never been faithful to me his affairs are numerous but i have always held on and tried to work things out. We have always managed to communicate and work things out. He always manages to do it again though.
3 years ago he left me and moved in with another woman. he was gone for about 6 months during that time i almost had a nervous breakdown and started taking prozac. When he decided that it was not gonna work with her he came back to me and being doped up on prozac i took him back and got pregnant again.
in the 3 years since then i have developed a hatred for our marriage i resent him and dont know how i was ever able to forgive him to begin with. But that is not to say that our realtionship is bad. It is tolerable and i am somewhat content.
The problem comes with the other man back and close, he has expressed that he still loves me. he is still single has been pretty much for 11 years. and i am totally in love with him. i want to leave my husband but i cant find the courage to do it and really dont know if i should.
wow i hope this makes some sense and someone out there can help....lol
i have been in love with a man for 13 years. i dated him for 2 and half years. his dad really didnt care too much for me and thinking beings they had a close realtionship he would be better off with out me i broke it off with him. This was my first mistake, heartbroken i turned to the first man who happened to be there. This was his best friend we dated for less than 3 months when i ended up pregnant and i married him.
Now 3 kids and 11 years later i have moved to where i now have a close realtionship with the first man again.
wow this is getting to be a long story....lol. The husband has never been faithful to me his affairs are numerous but i have always held on and tried to work things out. We have always managed to communicate and work things out. He always manages to do it again though.
3 years ago he left me and moved in with another woman. he was gone for about 6 months during that time i almost had a nervous breakdown and started taking prozac. When he decided that it was not gonna work with her he came back to me and being doped up on prozac i took him back and got pregnant again.
in the 3 years since then i have developed a hatred for our marriage i resent him and dont know how i was ever able to forgive him to begin with. But that is not to say that our realtionship is bad. It is tolerable and i am somewhat content.
The problem comes with the other man back and close, he has expressed that he still loves me. he is still single has been pretty much for 11 years. and i am totally in love with him. i want to leave my husband but i cant find the courage to do it and really dont know if i should.
wow i hope this makes some sense and someone out there can help....lol

Hi and welcome to the board,
My first thought... is you need some counselling... you need to find yourself and what you want.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
If I hadnt went to counseling I would have done one of two things...I would have stayed in a lifeless marriage, had a child and been "stuck" or I would have packed and walked out for the man I was in love with. Neither would have been wise choices. Although I am now married to the man I almost left for, I first spent some time soul searching and finding out who I was individually. It was the best thing I ever did for myself and I hope whether you stay or go that you spend some real time figuring out what you need to do for YOU!
*Hugs*
Liberal