Please help me new!!!!
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Please help me new!!!!
| Thu, 10-16-2003 - 9:43am |
I am new and would like help and advice on how to deal with this problem, 4 years ago i left my 16 year marriage for a sm who i thought i was in love with and thought he loved me, i had 2nd thoughts during this realtionship and decided to go back with my husband for security and the kids, now 4 years later i have finally heard from and saw my sm again atleast 4 times, i realize that i love this man and would love to be with him forever but he wont tell me how he feels for me because he dont want to come between me and my husband again, i dont have anything to go on and i dont know if this sm still loves me or what he feels for me, sometimes i wish he would just say please leave your marriage and i will be there for you forever but he wont say this because he thinks he is coming between me and my husband again, is there anything i can do or say to this sm? I am going crazy because i cant be with him and i am stuck in this loveless marriage that i dont want to be in? Does anyone think the same way as i do that if this sm loved me that he would put it all on the line and tell me he loves me and wants me forever?

Also, why do you expect him to put himself out there like you are asking again when last time you changed your mind and went back home...
Think about these things and try to be sure that you make your decision to stay in your marriage or not your own decision without reflecting on what is or isnt' gonna be there waiting for you.
*Hugs*
Liberal
(((((hugs)))))
I've been in your position, and I do remember how heart-wrenching it is to leave thinking that you'll might be with someone, but he won't just come out and say he's interested.
I've read the other replies here, and your response to them.
I feel for you. It's not easy.
And you need to pull yourself together and get the hell out of your marriage. You said yourself you've got low self-esteem and you're not used to doing things on your own...