Longest period of time with n/c
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Longest period of time with n/c
| Sat, 11-22-2003 - 8:53am |
As some of you might know by my last post about ending the A.
This relationship is clearly very different then anything else we have experienced, and I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that the guidelines/rules are very different as well.
After a good nights sleep and wonderful supportive information here, I need to remember he wasn't feeling well, was under pressure to get a large project done and getting ready for a trip to visit family for Thanksgiving. Having said that, I DO need to relax and wait for him to contact me.
How long have some of you gone with n/c from your MM/OM?

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Hi there hon,
11 days today.... he last said he would try to come over this( yesterday)
friday night... I was fed up with this and left him a voicemail....I guess this
going to be a trend now, give me the courtesy of a phone call if you are not coming
so I can make other plans... then calling the next day to say sorry I was terse,
this just hurts me when you do this..... NO call back, no Friday night date,.....
so aggravated by this.... You are right the circumstances of these A s are different but
does there need to be games and hurtful behavior.
He said when we last saw each other, that he feels guilty for not calling...
and my finding a bf would be better for me and less painful... I said then why do you do it.... he says well, I guess that's easier than saying we can't see each other any more...
don't you think??? I just said I didn't know... b/c he was f...ing with me.
so sick of his crap. Last time it was four weeks and of course I called him like an idiot!!!
He too is getting ready for a trip for the Thanksgiving Holiday.... wanted to see him before he left.
somebody just shoot me.
Deb
Well..it wasn't an A completely...we decided to go NC in June of last year because if we continued in the direction it was going, we would have crossed the line. Now I'm wishing we would have continued because the what-if's are killing me. My SG is an old boyfriend and was actually the OM in many relationships I've had in my life, except my marriage. I lost contact with SG 1 yr before I met my husband. And then like I said, we went NC again because the feelings were so strong. But I contacted him again last wed and i finally heard from him today. we'll see where it goes from there.
Haunted
Longest for me was five days...and WAS I PISSED (can I say that?!) I'm actually annoyed with him right now -- haven't heard from him in a couple of days (why I'm on here)!
Charlotte
I'm sure this is the beginning of the end for me, and I am not happy...
meaning there is more pain than joy so it will eventually feel better,
but today I didn't want to get out of bed ........ just depressed by
it all....sick of men in general, had a great date last weekend than
nothing, no call or anything........makes no sense to me any of it.
I swear i'd like to leave a boiled bunny on his porch, I am so mad!!!
to answer your question -- only a day or two of NC with my MM. we are in phone contact every day, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day, and see each other at least once a week, although i'm seeing him today AND tomorrow, so woohoo for me!! he and W are going away for the holiday and back on saturday, so we're getting our time in when we can!
hang in there and keep your chin up!
gurl
Those of you who see each other every day are so lucky! I often worry that just the logistics of this will mean the end, since I don't see our love for each other ending. We are both married, too, he with a teenager at home-I'm an empty nester.
Legs
I hope this gets easier, or I get use to it!!
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