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Sat, 11-22-2003 - 6:12pm
How do you deal with the vacations, the trips that they the H and W take together without the kids????

need guidance and advice please


Ladyinwaiting40

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ladyinwaiting40
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:31pm
hello lady. i guess the way i deal with extended time away by MM and W is to keep busy myself. i plan events - shopping with friends, dinner out with BF, manicure, whatever. do whatever you love and makes you feel special!

otherwise, you just have to grin and bear it, honey. as a MM, vacation/trip time with the W is part of the package. you really cannot "do" anything about it. the M is first and we, the OW, are maybe third or fourth or even fifth, behind the kids, work and probably sporting events!

so my best advice is to keep busy and focus on you for awhile. you'll get through it. be strong!

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: ladyinwaiting40
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 9:56pm

Hi Lady,


This is something that I've rarely had to deal with... never actually... MM and his wife usually will take their children along with them and more often than not her parents will be there too... so time alone for them is rather infrequent when on holidays.


However come February next year... it's MM and his wife's 10th wedding anniversary and they will be taking a second honeymoon away interstate for 10 days... provided that it gets organised... but it will be just them and no kids.

Sweet
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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: ladyinwaiting40
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:14am
LOL I have a great one for you! You will LOVE this...

MM and W took two trips this past summer, with their kids in tow, kinda. The first was a week long family vacation camping. Their son, his girlfriend and their daughter camped in one camper and MM and W were in another. MM THOUGHT it might be nice to 'connect' with W for the week and see where it leads. LOL She came home from the vacation griping up a storm about what a LEECH he is! LOL She said she ended up sleeping in the camper ALONE with the kids rather than with him because he JUST WOULD NOT leave her alone! So, his plans went afoul! The other trip was just a weekend trip, again, same camper arrangments. They were in a campgrounds with coed showers. W said she was going to take a shower. MM said he would join her. She said, "Isn't there anything else you could do and give me this time alone?" He just looked at her and said, 'Isn't there any time you want to spend with me at all?" and she said, "No, why? do we have to do everything together all the time?" LOL and he sat there thinking, WE NEVER DO ANYTHING TOGETHER AT HOME EITHER! Thats their odd relationship for you. LOL I actually feel sorry for her because she doesn't realize what a great guy he is all the time. I spend the time with him that she doesn't want to spend with him. When he makes his mini trips to check on inventory, I go with him, because she feels its boring. I find it exciting! I get to see the countryside around where we live (its beautiful yearound up here) and talk to him. Anyhow, what I did for the time they were gone was spent it with my kids. And thats what I will do next year too!

HTH

Tam