Do you ever get scared?
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| Mon, 11-24-2003 - 2:11pm |
I told MM about my fears and he was so caring and supportive. He said that he would be there for me no matter what. We are both eventaully going to divorce. We had already made this decision befor we strated seeing eachother. His marriage is worse off than mine. He said we would just take things slower. He said he didn't want to ruin anything we had together. I was OK after we talked. Now this morning when I got into my car I uaually have a voicemail waiting for me. I cried all the way to work because he hadn't called. I knew he wasn't going to but It still hurts. Did I make a mistake? I miss him. How do you go from talking to someone 3 times a day to nothing? Now I have this horrible marriage and a broked heart. We so desperately want to be together but it just isn't right. I don't love my husband but I don't want to risk getting caught. Anyone been here? Does anyone think about how their kids would react if they got caught?
Thanks.

i know you're upset because your MM didn't call you this morning and leave your daily message. but he IS abiding by your wishes, right? so you were a little thrown by that other person. wait another day or so, contact your MM and tell him you're over the whole thing and want to go back to the original routine. tell him you were pmsing or whatever.
if life is good, don't mess with it!
as for your question about being caught and losing the kids, or the house, or the marriage, in my experience (and several friends too!) the initial discovery is upsetting, teary, accusations fly, etc. but when all is said and done, the injured party comes around to the facts and usually wants to "start over" and work it out. if for some reason, the opposite happens and the marriage is over, the kids will not be taken away from you unless you beat them, don't feed them, lock 'em in a closet, you know, the really bad stuff, not because you were having an A and being unfaithful to the M. judges do not take the kids away from the primary caregiver (you, the mom, i'm assuming) unless there are truly dire circumstances and the children are in some kind of danger.
hang in there and do the best thing for you. whatever that is you get to decide!
good luck and keep in touch,
gurl