Some advice please!!!!!
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Some advice please!!!!!
| Mon, 11-24-2003 - 3:11pm |
My life is finally on the path I want it to go. I just feel like I can't give to my marriage anymore. My husband is trying to be the man I've wanted him to be for so long. I feel like it's too little to late (does that make sence?) Our realationship has been rocky from the get go, and I think that we both know if it wasn't for the kids we wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. The thing is we don't really fight anymore, we just don't communicate, or have anything in commen anymore. Loike I said, he is really trying, and I know I'm the one who has changed, I just feel numb. Do I owe it to him and our children to keep trying, or do I owe it to myself to move on??

gurl
but don't leave for the OM in your life. leave for you and a better future!
good luck no matter what you decide,
gurl
You have to ask yourself the "what if's" and really think it through. I guess the biggest question is how old are your kids? If they are starting to fend for themselves, maybe it's worth considering.
A friend of mine just got divorced and has lost everyday contact with her kids. It's killing her. I see what she is going through, and my troubles don't seem so bad.
it IS hard to take that first step toward independence, but you will when you reach your "limit"! hundreds of thousands of us survive and thrive, and you can too!
lostvoyage -- staying for the children is a waste of your life and theirs too. i understand what you're staying, but is a cop-out. you can maintain daily contact with your children, either in person or by telephone. and have during-the-week visits, either overnight if you live close to their mother and schools, or just dinner and conversation. it's totally doable if you make the effort to just do it. you can be happy instead of waiting for the children to grow up and then leave.
good luck to all of you,
gurl