Well, I'm going to SLAP him !!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Well, I'm going to SLAP him !!
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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:19pm
Unlike some other women here who are happy and have heard from their MM, I am really P***ED off at mine!! We were supposed to get together today, I have not heard from him. Although I was probably going to make up an excuse and not see him today anyways.

But that's besides the point!! He is rude. And I don't think we should have to sit here holding our breath waiting for a little crumb from them.

Boy, if he was here right now, I would slap him!! You betcha.

And tell him have a nice Thanksgiving, enjoy the turkey, because you won't be getting the dessert!!
xxxx

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:42pm


You go girl...... again like someone said earlier (sorry losing brain matter to myA)

Thanksgiving day is no excuse for being downright rude, inconsiderate, uncaring

and plain mean. Try to take it one day at time. Do something nice for yourself.

I did the shopping therapy again but have to be careful with that... cash only.

Have I mention buying shoes helps more than other stuff???

Am i nuts??? It really does! You should see how many I have though.

Love to chat more if you'd like to write me at

Debrab710@earthlink.net... I check my email everyday.

Forgive me but right now I am envious of all the happy people. I know that

is wrong and I am working on it but just irks me.

I feel I am deserving of some happiness too, that's all.

hugs and peace to you,

Deb

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:48pm
Hi Deb, I'll send you an email, maybe we can co-miserate!! Take care!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:49pm
dusty, girl, i'm feeling your anger all the way over here! and you are entitled to it. really, and truly, your MM SHOULD have called you to let you know today wasn't going to happen. just a tiny bit of consideration isn't too much to ask, ever!!

and don't waste one more minute thinking about MM or holding onto that anger. it's poisonous! go do something wonderful for yourself, buy a cool pair of shoes, get a great manicure, whatever! get out of the house and away from the computer for awhile. take a walk or a drive.

and the next time MM calls, tell him to GET LOST (not what i wanted to write but ivillage won't let me)!! when he asks why, tell him it's because you're an insensitive, non-communicative, disrespectful guy who can't pick up a phone. then hang up. HARD!!

hugs,

gurl

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:57pm
One more post....

Deb...you hang in there too hon!! I completely understand how you would be envious and even annoyed with the 'happy' people here at the moment. You are right -- you DO deserve some happiness too. Turn that sadness into anger. Hold your head up and tell yourself (and THEN HIM -- when the opportunity arises) that you're not going to take his BS anymore. I know being angry is a crappy way to feel, but it's a hell of a lot better than feeling down. Oh and by the way, loved this: "Have I mentioned buying shoes helps more than other stuff??? Am i nuts???" You're nut nuts! You are strong enough to maintain a sense of humor even in the midst of your pain.



dusty and deb...I know it's rough; I truly hope you two will be able to enjoy your Thanksgiving holidays...dont' forget Black Friday -- talk about shopping therapy!!

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:59pm
Boy, you are a tough cookie gurl !! Wish I had you here beside me for the moral support. I will probably chicken out with telling him where to go though, unfortunately.

But you are right about doing something nice. I've already been making plans for tonight with my kids, and not thinking about him.

So let him have his busy life and nice little "happy" family Thanksgiving. Good for him, I'm not going to let any poisonous thoughts wreck mine. And when I'm with MY family, I don't really think about him very much anymore. I think this is maybe the beginning of the end ...

we'll see.

xxxx
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 1:36pm
dusty, hope i didn't offend you, really i didn't mean to. i am a tough cookie from living life. i don't put up with any bullcrap from anyone in my life - not my BF, MM, my kids, not anyone! i've got a LOT of life experience here so i'm not too patient with mean people or people who are inconsiderate of the feelings, time, efforts of someone else they supposedly "love" and "care about." whatever.

tell MM or don't -- that's completely your call, girl. but if you don't let MM know exactly how you feel and what you WILL NOT put up with, then he will continue to treat you exactly as he has been. same holds true with anyone who is not doing right by you.

just speak up, IT ONLY HURTS FOR A SECOND! the fallout will be difficult but in the long run, you will have stood up for yourself and that FEELS DARN GOOD!!

gurl

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 2:40pm
I meant the tough cookie purely in a complimentary way! Because most people who know me would probably say I am too passive not agressive enough. So I admire people who can stand up for their rights. And you are right, I should tell him how I feel about things. I'm not a doormat for him to treat this way. I can't see him treating women like this, he seems like a real gentleman type of person, so I don't understand the casual attitude with me. But its got to come to an end.
xxxx
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Registered: 10-24-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 5:17pm
I'm sorry you didn't hear from MM, Dusty. I agree entirely, he was rude! If you two were to meet today, and he couldn't make it, that is one thing. But to not even bother to call is beyond rude. Two things I expect from everyone I allow in my life is respect and kindness. These requirements are unwritten, but there none the less. Those of us that are married take has many risks as our MM do, and realize that we can't come first...or even second. Which makes kindness and consideration all the more important.

Take several deep breaths and remember you are in control here. Let him know that you are not pleased with his not contacting you. Then leave the ball in his court.

He better make it up to you.

Take care and sending hugs.

Life

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 10:28pm
Haha, hey girl, I like your attitude. Your post made me smile. I can really imagine you doing that... I know what you mean by dessert, hehe, he'll be really sorry I bet. Well, hopefully you'll hear from him soon.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:15am
Thanks for your responses everyone. I'm feeling better today about things. Now I'm really curious though, whatever was in message 11? It was deleted. Anyhow, everyone have a good holiday. I plan to !!
xxxx

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